Final good-bye letter
you are assuming that he would
A) READ IT ALL THE WAY THRU
B) UNDERSTAND exactly what you are saying
c) AGREE with you
that's a tall order. because we have put ourselves smack dab back in EXPECTATIONS. and wondering IF they got it yet, IF they read it yet, WHAT they may or may not say in return.
and of course, altho we SAID this was the FINAL good bye....there is likely to be:
-OH and another thing.........letter
-It's been three weeks and I haven't heard back from you.....letter
-Thinking of you on your Great Aunt Agnes's knee surgery day.....letter
get my point? it never ends. not if we keep engaging with THEM.
A) READ IT ALL THE WAY THRU
B) UNDERSTAND exactly what you are saying
c) AGREE with you
that's a tall order. because we have put ourselves smack dab back in EXPECTATIONS. and wondering IF they got it yet, IF they read it yet, WHAT they may or may not say in return.
and of course, altho we SAID this was the FINAL good bye....there is likely to be:
-OH and another thing.........letter
-It's been three weeks and I haven't heard back from you.....letter
-Thinking of you on your Great Aunt Agnes's knee surgery day.....letter
get my point? it never ends. not if we keep engaging with THEM.
IME, it is worth it for MY own growth, release and closure.
Never to be sent. No good either if the thinking behind it is to send it and to punish the other person. It will just reopen contact and the hornets nest.
I think the motive behind needs to be looked at.
Never to be sent. No good either if the thinking behind it is to send it and to punish the other person. It will just reopen contact and the hornets nest.
I think the motive behind needs to be looked at.
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I really don't think he understands how much him being in my life changed me. I suppose he won't understand until and unless he starts a recovery process of his own.
Drinking to the point of intoxication; it's not "normal" or average. Just something I surrounded myself with because that's all I knew. That's where he is and no letter or words of encouragement will change that.
I don't hate him, I just can't be around him. I guess that's all I want him to know. I hope on some level he already does
Drinking to the point of intoxication; it's not "normal" or average. Just something I surrounded myself with because that's all I knew. That's where he is and no letter or words of encouragement will change that.
I don't hate him, I just can't be around him. I guess that's all I want him to know. I hope on some level he already does
It only seems to work like that on television because human nature makes us defensive, not sorry.
As with alcoholics, actions say more than words.
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