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Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: South Central USA
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Changes
Hi everyone! I'm making some changes in my life -- an out of state move and yes it involves Mr. Harley and his wonderful daughter. I'm working on a new real estate license for the new state, which I'm excited about and have found a boutique firm that will take me on as an apprentice since I'll be new to the area. I'll never be in a position I can't take care of myself again. Biggest mistake of my life! Little House on the Prairie just doesn't exist, at least not in my world.
Getting out to a whole new place will be very good, but I'll keep my grandmothers home for one of my sons. The peace over the last 1.7yrs since exAH left me for his drink started out rough, but overall things have been amazing. Everything isn't roses nor do I expect it to be and that's ok. Two of my 4 sons graduated in May leaving only one at home and he graduates HS next year. Sadly, as soon as he turned 18 in May he moved back into his dads house and let me know he no longer has to do anything I say. Well, Ok then, I'm moving on, but I'll always be available if needed. I get it, I was a teen once too...dad is still the drunk good time charlie. Actions have consequences and there's nothing more I can do for him accept watch.
I came back and re-read my posts over the past years. It's hard to swallow all that I allowed to happen to me and my kids while stuck in denial. It was a good reminder and I am so thankful things are different today. I wouldn't change a thing. What I've learned and continue to learn is so very valuable. I hope others will see the value in what they learn as they heal from the effects of this disease. It's golden.
I may not be here often but I do think on many of you and the advice given that's fits all relationships. Hugs to you all!
Getting out to a whole new place will be very good, but I'll keep my grandmothers home for one of my sons. The peace over the last 1.7yrs since exAH left me for his drink started out rough, but overall things have been amazing. Everything isn't roses nor do I expect it to be and that's ok. Two of my 4 sons graduated in May leaving only one at home and he graduates HS next year. Sadly, as soon as he turned 18 in May he moved back into his dads house and let me know he no longer has to do anything I say. Well, Ok then, I'm moving on, but I'll always be available if needed. I get it, I was a teen once too...dad is still the drunk good time charlie. Actions have consequences and there's nothing more I can do for him accept watch.
I came back and re-read my posts over the past years. It's hard to swallow all that I allowed to happen to me and my kids while stuck in denial. It was a good reminder and I am so thankful things are different today. I wouldn't change a thing. What I've learned and continue to learn is so very valuable. I hope others will see the value in what they learn as they heal from the effects of this disease. It's golden.
I may not be here often but I do think on many of you and the advice given that's fits all relationships. Hugs to you all!
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: atlanta, ga
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Oh WOW. I am so happy for you!
Has it been near 2 years? Time goes so fast. I remember the posts about leaving or not, and what to do with the house and kids, stay or go.
Now look at you, happy, moving with Mr. Harley living life.
That's what its all about
Has it been near 2 years? Time goes so fast. I remember the posts about leaving or not, and what to do with the house and kids, stay or go.
Now look at you, happy, moving with Mr. Harley living life.
That's what its all about
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Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Iowa
Posts: 3,050
It does make you pause, spending time with someone who treats you so well and makes you a priority, when you think back to all the supposed "good behavior" that kept you hanging in with the alcoholic. I'm experiencing that now.
Our standards can get lowered down so far that anything slightly better than garbage looks attractive.
Katchie, you are an inspiration, shining in recovery and in life. So happy for you. Congrats on your awesome career and sweet romance.
Our standards can get lowered down so far that anything slightly better than garbage looks attractive.
Katchie, you are an inspiration, shining in recovery and in life. So happy for you. Congrats on your awesome career and sweet romance.
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Join Date: Aug 2011
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Katchie.....lol...I remember your struggle and journey so well!
Your update warms my heart,,,,I am so proud of you!!
"Little house o n the Prarie"---LOL...LOL...
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***hearing an update, such as yours is such a comfort and inspiration for newbies who may be hurting terribly....
Your update warms my heart,,,,I am so proud of you!!
"Little house o n the Prarie"---LOL...LOL...
dandylion
***hearing an update, such as yours is such a comfort and inspiration for newbies who may be hurting terribly....
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Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: South Central USA
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I'm glad for the anonymity of this forum, but my goodness...how nice it would be to sit real time and have a cup of coffee with you all. I didn't have a sponsor I really felt comfortable with, but you all were the perfect match. Hugs, laughter, and coffee real time would be so very nice!
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: South Jersey
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What an awesome update! We've missed you around here, but when someone is gone because they're off LIVING LIFE, then that's a good thing!
Best of luck with the move and the new job--you are a whole new YOU.
Best of luck with the move and the new job--you are a whole new YOU.
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