Al-anon meetings
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Al-anon meetings
In the last couple weeks I've gone to 4 al-anon meetings. I haven't been able to make it through sharing without crying yet. No one else in any of the other meetings looks even close to crying when they share. Please tell me that some day I will be able to talk about things without crying.
If you've cried while sharing at meetings please let me know I'm not alone. It's embarrassing to be the only one.
If you've cried while sharing at meetings please let me know I'm not alone. It's embarrassing to be the only one.
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MCM,
Yes, I have cried, many times. When you see other people who have lived the same truth that you have lived, the only thing you can do is cry. I felt so alone, like no one would believe what you have witnessed.
It is all part of the healing process. Keep coming back, it works when you work it!!
Sending hugs my friend, you are on the path to healing yourself!!
Yes, I have cried, many times. When you see other people who have lived the same truth that you have lived, the only thing you can do is cry. I felt so alone, like no one would believe what you have witnessed.
It is all part of the healing process. Keep coming back, it works when you work it!!
Sending hugs my friend, you are on the path to healing yourself!!
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I have cried too--in fact, I apparently looked so wretched at my first "beginner's meeting" that when they drew straws for a free Alanon book and another woman won the draw, she said "I think you should give it to her ("her" being me)--she looks like she needs it worse!"
One of the things you'll learn in Alanon is the saying "don't compare your insides to somebody else's outside." Just b/c no one else is currently crying in your meetings doesn't mean they haven't in the past. Eventually you will stop crying too, and then some newcomer will show up and look at you and think to herself "wow, she doesn't look even close to crying, how come I'm the only one crying..."
One of the things you'll learn in Alanon is the saying "don't compare your insides to somebody else's outside." Just b/c no one else is currently crying in your meetings doesn't mean they haven't in the past. Eventually you will stop crying too, and then some newcomer will show up and look at you and think to herself "wow, she doesn't look even close to crying, how come I'm the only one crying..."
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Originally Posted by mcm19 
....If you've cried while sharing at meetings please let me know I'm not alone. It's embarrassing to be the only one.
And yes, I stopped crying. Not the first week, it took me a few weeks but slowly I was able to get all the pain out of my soul. The first meeting that I did _not_ cry peeps were especially nice and congratulated me
Mike
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Oh man - sobbed like a baby - publicly. I would have been less uncomfortable if I had toilet paper hanging out of my tights...
Afterwards, I never felt better. <3
We've done it, we've seen it, we get it, and it is OK!!!
Afterwards, I never felt better. <3
We've done it, we've seen it, we get it, and it is OK!!!
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So glad to know we are not alone I cried for seemed forever.... so glad for tissue... today I know when I cry I am cleaning myself to allow the "light/healing" in.... I rarely cry at meetings but today I accept when I do, its perfectly healthy to have a good cry, and it is ok to do so!
Kat
I cried for seemed forever.... so glad for tissue... today I know when I cry I am cleaning myself to allow the "light/healing" in.... I rarely cry at meetings but today I accept when I do, its perfectly healthy to have a good cry, and it is ok to do so!Kat
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