My gratitude
My gratitude
I wanted to share my gratitude and say thanks for this site and all those that are here and run it and take part.
I am growing and learning so much.
I noticed yesterday (with pleasure) that my body no longer reacts to someone elses anger. That debilitating release of 'Fight or Flight' chemicals no longer happens. I don't get the sick in the stomach, anxiety feeling. I speak especially of A's anger. Anger that isn't real and can be freely directed everywhere at their distorted will.
I think this reaction had stopped in me some time ago but I hadn't fully realised.
I see AH acting out as boring! No emotional release in me.
This was the state of mind and attitude in me that I have working to reach. Over come my ingrained training!
Being around AH has given me a great opportunity to work on myself and not be attracted towards the same old, same old dysfunctional drunks/personality disorders.
I remember reading a long time ago that you knew you were recovered when the very behaviours that set your tummy wobbling and you were attracted towards, became boring.
It is never about "them", it is about why are we with them!!!
Enjoying this journey. Thanks again for this wonderful resource.
I am growing and learning so much.
I noticed yesterday (with pleasure) that my body no longer reacts to someone elses anger. That debilitating release of 'Fight or Flight' chemicals no longer happens. I don't get the sick in the stomach, anxiety feeling. I speak especially of A's anger. Anger that isn't real and can be freely directed everywhere at their distorted will.
I think this reaction had stopped in me some time ago but I hadn't fully realised.
I see AH acting out as boring! No emotional release in me.
This was the state of mind and attitude in me that I have working to reach. Over come my ingrained training!
Being around AH has given me a great opportunity to work on myself and not be attracted towards the same old, same old dysfunctional drunks/personality disorders.
I remember reading a long time ago that you knew you were recovered when the very behaviours that set your tummy wobbling and you were attracted towards, became boring.
It is never about "them", it is about why are we with them!!!
Enjoying this journey. Thanks again for this wonderful resource.
I started this journey wondering why I had had a series of dysfunctional relationships and what was wrong with all of those men I picked!!
Gradually I realised what was wrong was ME and the choices I made.
Your user name is lovely.
One of the biggest changes in me is I have a lovely, soft, kind, calm voice now! I love it when I hear it coming out of me.
I used to have a loud, angry sounding, rather aggressive voice.
It's funny I used to think to be strong, you needed to be loud, stomp about! Not at all, I am very strong, yet soft and kind with it.
My boundaries are very strong so I feel protected so I don't need to scare people away.
I agree that even harsh issues can be dealt with in a kind manner.
Glad to be here.
It is never about "them", it is about why are we with them!!!
I didn't realise the life I craved was calm, peaceful and orderly. The exact opposite of my childhood and how I was living.
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