Has anyone ever dealt with a hypochodriac?
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I guess my daughter found something else to do now. She hasn't called me since last week. (lol) I actually didn't expect her to. It's her MO. She tries to get everyone worked up, then she continues with her life, like nothing happened, and doesn't call back. I also know how the routine goes if I try to call her. She won't answer the phone. So I don't bother.
She was diagnosed? with RA in 2008. No, I don't see any deformities at all.
That stomach pacemaker, she supposedly had that put in, in 2010. But, why doesn't it show up on the x ray with her IUD? She told me that she had to fight with her doctors to get that, and that she had to go to a different state to have that put in.
Aries, she is not my ex's bio daughter. My first ex was her bio dad. My current ex adopted her when she was 7. I don't know too much about my first ex's mental health. We were married young, and he was considered a "bad boy" at that time. My marriage to him lasted only 8 months, and he saw his daughter only about 3 times after he left.
I wish I could lead her to mental health profession. She have a therapist that she sees now about once a year, and will never go to a psychiatrist. She's also a very good liar, and without a psychiatrist getting feedback from her family, she will do a snow job on that person.
So, I'm celebrating drama free days now for awhile till the next phone call.
Many thanks,
it really does help my mental state to be able to write things down. It's like I can leave all my problems here, and not worry about them.
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She was diagnosed? with RA in 2008. No, I don't see any deformities at all.
That stomach pacemaker, she supposedly had that put in, in 2010. But, why doesn't it show up on the x ray with her IUD? She told me that she had to fight with her doctors to get that, and that she had to go to a different state to have that put in.
Aries, she is not my ex's bio daughter. My first ex was her bio dad. My current ex adopted her when she was 7. I don't know too much about my first ex's mental health. We were married young, and he was considered a "bad boy" at that time. My marriage to him lasted only 8 months, and he saw his daughter only about 3 times after he left.
I wish I could lead her to mental health profession. She have a therapist that she sees now about once a year, and will never go to a psychiatrist. She's also a very good liar, and without a psychiatrist getting feedback from her family, she will do a snow job on that person.
So, I'm celebrating drama free days now for awhile till the next phone call.
Many thanks,
it really does help my mental state to be able to write things down. It's like I can leave all my problems here, and not worry about them.
amy
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Good news !!!!! My daughter called today. She told me that she had the ultrasound done on the nodules in the thyroid. That was the only thing that was recommended on the test results. (Most nodules are benign).
She also scheduled an appt for a spine specialist. (curvature of the spine), and a new neurologist.
Best news, her GP told her she should see a psychiatrist for depression. She couldn't find one that was accepting new patients, so he referred her to outpatient treatment. This is from 9 to 3:30 daily for 6 weeks. I think this is the best thing that could happen. I told her about my experience with this. (I did write about that here). They thought I was suicidal. I just really wanted to be able to sleep at night. But anyway, I had a great experience there, and it gives people more time to know you.
So that is my terrific update of the day.
I did calm her worries about everything, and it was only a 40 min phone call, and I didn't have to deal with her crying the entire time.
(((((((((hugs))))))))
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She also scheduled an appt for a spine specialist. (curvature of the spine), and a new neurologist.
Best news, her GP told her she should see a psychiatrist for depression. She couldn't find one that was accepting new patients, so he referred her to outpatient treatment. This is from 9 to 3:30 daily for 6 weeks. I think this is the best thing that could happen. I told her about my experience with this. (I did write about that here). They thought I was suicidal. I just really wanted to be able to sleep at night. But anyway, I had a great experience there, and it gives people more time to know you.
So that is my terrific update of the day.
I did calm her worries about everything, and it was only a 40 min phone call, and I didn't have to deal with her crying the entire time.
(((((((((hugs))))))))
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There was a part of the conversation that I almost totally ignored. She likes to do fundraisers, just to get her name in the paper. She was doing something for the lupus foundation, but she didn't get enough credit. She decided to go solo this year and do a fundraiser to get comfortable chairs for people receiving orencia treatment. Said she worked out a deal with a furniture company that was willing to give her a 30% discount, and would want to use her in a commercial to promote their business. (OK), and then do follow up photo ops with her.
She feels this outpatient will interfere with that because she wouldn't be around for photo ops. Plus there is a lot of work involved getting a plaque made up with that the chairs were donated by her. (gag)
I didn't let this bother me, I told her that there is plenty of time to do this on a Saturday.
Then she said, well at least this will end a week before I go on my cruise. (OK, again)
I'm still happy that she can b!tch to them for 6 weeks, and hopefully not me.
amy
She feels this outpatient will interfere with that because she wouldn't be around for photo ops. Plus there is a lot of work involved getting a plaque made up with that the chairs were donated by her. (gag)
I didn't let this bother me, I told her that there is plenty of time to do this on a Saturday.
Then she said, well at least this will end a week before I go on my cruise. (OK, again)
I'm still happy that she can b!tch to them for 6 weeks, and hopefully not me.
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Also forgot to mention that she claimed how sick she was from December, a reason for not calling me. I didn't say anything at all, but I was aware that she went to Las Vegas. My mind does block these things out.
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um yea. I think her RA is the least of her concerns. Also lupus, ms, scleroderma, celiac, fibromyalgia, scoliosis, going blind, losing her hearing, (going deaf), needing a wheelchair, and I am sure I forgot about 15 - 20 of them. Now we can add in FTD, and thyroid cancer.
I do think she challenges me with her diagnosis. It's like she wants to know if I heard of it recently. If I did, then she backs off a little. I think she freaked a little when I told her I knew what FTD was.
That's when she calls back knowing that she can't BS me. All of her perceived diagnosis, was when she couldn't BS me, because she wasn't speaking to me, and the other people bought into it. If others buy into it, then it must be true. With me, she can't do that, I think that's why she stops talking to me for long periods of time, and I think that's why she got a little bit sensible this time.
I think after working for soc ial sec u rity, and taking claims for disability and knowing the questions to ask, and also knowing what I went through, she really can't BS me. That's when she usually tries to find a reason to not speak to me for that my family might understand, although my family is starting to not believe things either. Well, at least my cousins aren't buying it anymore. That's why I am soooooo happy about the outpatient.
I think she was just trying to set up her free summer vacations, where she gets to someplace with the kids, she relaxes and complains the whole time, and the other person does all the cooking and childcare. BTDT.
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PS - If I am wrong about this, I will admit it. (lol)
I do think she challenges me with her diagnosis. It's like she wants to know if I heard of it recently. If I did, then she backs off a little. I think she freaked a little when I told her I knew what FTD was.
That's when she calls back knowing that she can't BS me. All of her perceived diagnosis, was when she couldn't BS me, because she wasn't speaking to me, and the other people bought into it. If others buy into it, then it must be true. With me, she can't do that, I think that's why she stops talking to me for long periods of time, and I think that's why she got a little bit sensible this time.
I think after working for soc ial sec u rity, and taking claims for disability and knowing the questions to ask, and also knowing what I went through, she really can't BS me. That's when she usually tries to find a reason to not speak to me for that my family might understand, although my family is starting to not believe things either. Well, at least my cousins aren't buying it anymore. That's why I am soooooo happy about the outpatient.
I think she was just trying to set up her free summer vacations, where she gets to someplace with the kids, she relaxes and complains the whole time, and the other person does all the cooking and childcare. BTDT.
amy
PS - If I am wrong about this, I will admit it. (lol)
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I need to let one other thing go here. I don't want to keep it in my brain any longer. The last lupus fundraiser, she wore a gown, and made butterfly wings for herself and as the walk started, she was doing a dance, as if she was fluttering away. I don't know if she did that for the whole walk. When they were coming back from the walk she was still doing that, I just wasn't able to watch the whole way. I was watching the tables.
Guess I am also worried that she could also be using this as a hook to help her out while she is doing outpatient. She once asked me to drive over 2 hours to her house and then home again to tie 50 ribbons. I didn't go.
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Guess I am also worried that she could also be using this as a hook to help her out while she is doing outpatient. She once asked me to drive over 2 hours to her house and then home again to tie 50 ribbons. I didn't go.
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I think my whole family is crazy. Or maybe it is me. I called my sister today about this weekend. We have a bridal shower to go to on Sunday. I was thinking of getting there early in the morning, then spending the day with her, and going out for Pizza on Monday before I head back. Her daughter likes Gertrude Hawk chocolate, and its easily available to me here, so I was just calling to find out what kind to pick up.
She (my sister) tells me my daughter was on facebook about tests that she needs to have done. OK, hook, line, sinker here, I asked what else she said, I don't want my daughter posting things to get my entire family upset. So my sister goes to facebook and starts telling me about all the sarcastic things she (my sister) had posted there regarding her job, and is reading one after another to me, for at least 10 minutes, I had to stop her. I told her I just want her to look real fast to see if my daughter is posting worrying things about her health on facebook. She told me that she had to get out of her profile and look at my daughters.
You know what, I don't know if I am dealing with anyone that is sane anymore. I question my own sanity. I question why I am not so vein and so into myself.
Re: the chocolate, I told her this place usually reduces the price to $7.00 a bag for smidgeons. I was going to get one for each of her daughters but there was a sale for $30.00 for 5 bags. My sister just gave me the order for the other 3 bags for her. Never thought of me, and never said she would pay me for them, never thought that I might want 1 or 2 and give the other to my friends.
I really am sorry to complain about this stuff here. This is always the way that it has been in my family.
I am on a fixed income, but whenever I go over to my sisters, we have to use my car, she never has cash and won't use a credit card, and I pay for everything. Their income is at least 4 times as much as mine.
So I will go over there on Sunday, mostly because I want to spend time with my niece (ex heroin addict) who actually thought enough about me to buy me a small x mas present that arrived after I left there for xmas.
So don't know what to think about anything anymore.
I don't need responses, I am using this as a journal, though responses are truly welcomed.
I donate, I never expect or want thanks or appreciation. I am just happy to help and I hope the help I gave enriches another ones life. I really don't understand all of this self centeredness.
(((((hugs))))))
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She (my sister) tells me my daughter was on facebook about tests that she needs to have done. OK, hook, line, sinker here, I asked what else she said, I don't want my daughter posting things to get my entire family upset. So my sister goes to facebook and starts telling me about all the sarcastic things she (my sister) had posted there regarding her job, and is reading one after another to me, for at least 10 minutes, I had to stop her. I told her I just want her to look real fast to see if my daughter is posting worrying things about her health on facebook. She told me that she had to get out of her profile and look at my daughters.
You know what, I don't know if I am dealing with anyone that is sane anymore. I question my own sanity. I question why I am not so vein and so into myself.
Re: the chocolate, I told her this place usually reduces the price to $7.00 a bag for smidgeons. I was going to get one for each of her daughters but there was a sale for $30.00 for 5 bags. My sister just gave me the order for the other 3 bags for her. Never thought of me, and never said she would pay me for them, never thought that I might want 1 or 2 and give the other to my friends.
I really am sorry to complain about this stuff here. This is always the way that it has been in my family.
I am on a fixed income, but whenever I go over to my sisters, we have to use my car, she never has cash and won't use a credit card, and I pay for everything. Their income is at least 4 times as much as mine.
So I will go over there on Sunday, mostly because I want to spend time with my niece (ex heroin addict) who actually thought enough about me to buy me a small x mas present that arrived after I left there for xmas.
So don't know what to think about anything anymore.
I don't need responses, I am using this as a journal, though responses are truly welcomed.
I donate, I never expect or want thanks or appreciation. I am just happy to help and I hope the help I gave enriches another ones life. I really don't understand all of this self centeredness.
(((((hugs))))))
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My little darling drama queen daughter is still going at it. My sister called me. She wanted to know why my daughter would call her to drive 40 mins to go to get a birth certificate for her that my daughter wanted it sent overnight mail, because she needed to get a passport for a cruise, and that she couldn't do it because she was having surgery, and then for the next 6 weeks will be doing outpatient at a hospital. (She failed to mention that the outpatient was for depression, and hopefully some diagnosis from a psychiatrist). So she had my sister thinking that she was going in for cancer treatment or radiation for 6 weeks. My sister called me to ask, why the h3ll would she even think about a cruise if she is having all these problems? (Understandable)
Then I look on facebook, (which I know that I shouldn't do), and she posted a family pic from x mas with all her cousins, and writes, that she is going through a very trying time right now, and that she would appreciate it if all the people that were in that pic with her, would look for a pic that they had with that person and her in it, and to put it on facebook, so that she can feel all the love from her family.
Note: She never called me back about any surgery.
So, I am going to a bridal shower on Sunday for a 2nd cousin of mine. These are all the people that were in that picture that she posted, and they will be asking me what's going on, and I really have nothing to say. Meanwhile, she is out doing her thing, which is shopping. She never really does get sick on the weekends, unless there is a party and she needs to be ill.
She is supposed to start mental health on Monday.
amy
Then I look on facebook, (which I know that I shouldn't do), and she posted a family pic from x mas with all her cousins, and writes, that she is going through a very trying time right now, and that she would appreciate it if all the people that were in that pic with her, would look for a pic that they had with that person and her in it, and to put it on facebook, so that she can feel all the love from her family.
Note: She never called me back about any surgery.
So, I am going to a bridal shower on Sunday for a 2nd cousin of mine. These are all the people that were in that picture that she posted, and they will be asking me what's going on, and I really have nothing to say. Meanwhile, she is out doing her thing, which is shopping. She never really does get sick on the weekends, unless there is a party and she needs to be ill.
She is supposed to start mental health on Monday.
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I went to the Bridal Shower on Sunday. Everything was going pretty well. Then one cousin of mine came over and said to me, wth is wrong with your daughter? I didn't know what to say. She said, I thought she had 2 sons, not 1. I only ever see her posting about one of hers sons.
Then another came over to me and said , wth is wrong with your daughter? she said "She keeps posting on facebook that she is sick and dying, then I see her going out to NJ Devil games and concerts, going out with her friends and there is never one word to me about my H having diabetes and having toes, then foot, then leg amputated. Then she wants me to send pictures of me and her together to make her feel better. She couldn't even show up here for her cousins (my cousins daughter bridal shower) and she wants me to do all of this for her".
Again, I calmed everyone down, I'm getting really good at that.
None of my cousins are really looking to me for answers, they are responding to what they are seeing. I just sort of told them that I was in contact with her now, and that I am seeing her medical reports, and that I can't say anything further. They understood that.
In response to the first one, yes, I do have 2 grandsons. My daughter never puts him on face book. She is always with and posting about her younger son.
I thought it was only me that saw that, but now I know it's not just me. It's the other grandson that they are diagnosing with a mental illness. I truly wonder why, when he is terrific when he is with me.
I guess that happens when you ignore a child, and you leave that child home all the time with a father that is depressed and apparently attempted suicide, and then you have your golden child.
I have heard nothing about her older son who apparently pushed her down the stairs, and they had to lock themselves in the basement, because they were terrified of him.
I have also not heard that they took either of these kids to a dentist, where the older one (10yrs old), already needed to have permanent teeth pulled, root canals, and caps.
I'm embarrassed to even post this here, and even more embarrassed to say that I can't call CPS. CPS will not have enough on my daughter to take the children away. She is not intentionally being abusive, but she is. If I cut contact with her, or if she files another RO against me, there is no way that I can know anything about what is going on. She does sometimes listen to me.
For any questions about the father---- he used to earn over $150,000. a year. He was laid off and decided he could just do gambling on line for a living. He sleeps till noon or 1 pm, wakes up and gambles on line till 4 am in the morning. He is, I would say anti-social. He has never looked at me and talked to me. He has a game that he would play. The only place that he will really drive now alone is to Shop - Rite. He had "COUPONS", and what was on sale there. We always had to guess how much he spent and how much he saved when he came back from his trip to the Shop -Rite.
Sorry, that I am letting more venting out.
So, if chicken was not on sale and potato chips were, that's what he bought----potato chips. (I lived with them for 5 months because my daughter was on bedrest for a pregnancy) This is why I know all of this.
My son-in-law has not worked since Dec 2007. If this wasn't my life, I wouldn't believe it. I can't say that he is the cause of my daughter being the drama queen that she is. She was like this prior to being with him.
Rambling a bit here now, my daughter had wanted me to move in with her when I left my ex. I couldn't do it after living with them while she was on bedrest. She wanted a maid, a cook, a nanny, a landscaper, and a friend. I just wanted a life. She never forgave me for not moving in with her. Oh, she also wanted me to control her husband, so that he does want she wanted him to do. See occasionally, if I wanted to cook chicken for dinner, he would actually buy it, even if it wasn't on sale.
Really sorry about still venting here, but I just need to get all this stuff out of my head, and this really is only just the beginning of it.
amy
Then another came over to me and said , wth is wrong with your daughter? she said "She keeps posting on facebook that she is sick and dying, then I see her going out to NJ Devil games and concerts, going out with her friends and there is never one word to me about my H having diabetes and having toes, then foot, then leg amputated. Then she wants me to send pictures of me and her together to make her feel better. She couldn't even show up here for her cousins (my cousins daughter bridal shower) and she wants me to do all of this for her".
Again, I calmed everyone down, I'm getting really good at that.
None of my cousins are really looking to me for answers, they are responding to what they are seeing. I just sort of told them that I was in contact with her now, and that I am seeing her medical reports, and that I can't say anything further. They understood that.
In response to the first one, yes, I do have 2 grandsons. My daughter never puts him on face book. She is always with and posting about her younger son.
I thought it was only me that saw that, but now I know it's not just me. It's the other grandson that they are diagnosing with a mental illness. I truly wonder why, when he is terrific when he is with me.
I guess that happens when you ignore a child, and you leave that child home all the time with a father that is depressed and apparently attempted suicide, and then you have your golden child.
I have heard nothing about her older son who apparently pushed her down the stairs, and they had to lock themselves in the basement, because they were terrified of him.
I have also not heard that they took either of these kids to a dentist, where the older one (10yrs old), already needed to have permanent teeth pulled, root canals, and caps.
I'm embarrassed to even post this here, and even more embarrassed to say that I can't call CPS. CPS will not have enough on my daughter to take the children away. She is not intentionally being abusive, but she is. If I cut contact with her, or if she files another RO against me, there is no way that I can know anything about what is going on. She does sometimes listen to me.
For any questions about the father---- he used to earn over $150,000. a year. He was laid off and decided he could just do gambling on line for a living. He sleeps till noon or 1 pm, wakes up and gambles on line till 4 am in the morning. He is, I would say anti-social. He has never looked at me and talked to me. He has a game that he would play. The only place that he will really drive now alone is to Shop - Rite. He had "COUPONS", and what was on sale there. We always had to guess how much he spent and how much he saved when he came back from his trip to the Shop -Rite.
Sorry, that I am letting more venting out.
So, if chicken was not on sale and potato chips were, that's what he bought----potato chips. (I lived with them for 5 months because my daughter was on bedrest for a pregnancy) This is why I know all of this.
My son-in-law has not worked since Dec 2007. If this wasn't my life, I wouldn't believe it. I can't say that he is the cause of my daughter being the drama queen that she is. She was like this prior to being with him.
Rambling a bit here now, my daughter had wanted me to move in with her when I left my ex. I couldn't do it after living with them while she was on bedrest. She wanted a maid, a cook, a nanny, a landscaper, and a friend. I just wanted a life. She never forgave me for not moving in with her. Oh, she also wanted me to control her husband, so that he does want she wanted him to do. See occasionally, if I wanted to cook chicken for dinner, he would actually buy it, even if it wasn't on sale.
Really sorry about still venting here, but I just need to get all this stuff out of my head, and this really is only just the beginning of it.
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O my.
She sounds a bit spoiled Amy in wanting everyone to do everything for her. Sounds like everyone is getting a bit tired of the dramatics not just you. Its hard to be sympathetic when people are dealing with REAL illnesses and horrible health issues.
I understand why you keep a closed lid so that you can be there for your grandchildren. Kudos to you, I would have blown up a long time ago.
She sounds a bit spoiled Amy in wanting everyone to do everything for her. Sounds like everyone is getting a bit tired of the dramatics not just you. Its hard to be sympathetic when people are dealing with REAL illnesses and horrible health issues.
I understand why you keep a closed lid so that you can be there for your grandchildren. Kudos to you, I would have blown up a long time ago.
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I am so sorry you are dealing with this and the pain it is causing you.
I knew a hypochondriac that would constantly update facebook with "Oh went to the doctor and I have a rare blood disease" or "I have fibro." oh I have RA oh I have MS. etc. etc. She always had a million very serious diseases including cancer and at times would walk around making noises like she was in so much pain..until she got distracted and then she would be working fine.
I literally saw her playing with her daughter skipping in the street until someone she hadn't seen in awhile pulled up and then she was crying that she can barely move and her cancer is back. (she never had cancer). She even shaved her head because of chemo, except she wasn't having chemo. She like your daughter had many fundraisers for different diseases she claimed to have.
She wasn't someone whom I had any reason of staying in contact with so I was able to go no contact.
Keep reaching out here, I know how easy it is to start thinking we are going crazy, especially when we start thinking about everything in the past and how most likely none of it was true.
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I knew a hypochondriac that would constantly update facebook with "Oh went to the doctor and I have a rare blood disease" or "I have fibro." oh I have RA oh I have MS. etc. etc. She always had a million very serious diseases including cancer and at times would walk around making noises like she was in so much pain..until she got distracted and then she would be working fine.
I literally saw her playing with her daughter skipping in the street until someone she hadn't seen in awhile pulled up and then she was crying that she can barely move and her cancer is back. (she never had cancer). She even shaved her head because of chemo, except she wasn't having chemo. She like your daughter had many fundraisers for different diseases she claimed to have.
She wasn't someone whom I had any reason of staying in contact with so I was able to go no contact.
Keep reaching out here, I know how easy it is to start thinking we are going crazy, especially when we start thinking about everything in the past and how most likely none of it was true.
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You are one of the strongest women, no PERSON, that I have EVER had the honor to meet.
You are compassionate, loving, patient, a rock to those around you, you think things through and don't just react to react, you are every quality and more that I hope to one day be.
I have read your whole thread and I just had to let you know how much I admire you and your strength. My own mother shares a lot of the same qualities that you do and I always try to mirror my actions to her.
Keep celebrating your drama free days and make sure you only let this go as far as you feel comfortable letting it get with her. I know you love her and your grandchildren, but it is important that we all love our own sanity and well being more.
HUGS HUGS HUGS
You are compassionate, loving, patient, a rock to those around you, you think things through and don't just react to react, you are every quality and more that I hope to one day be.
I have read your whole thread and I just had to let you know how much I admire you and your strength. My own mother shares a lot of the same qualities that you do and I always try to mirror my actions to her.
Keep celebrating your drama free days and make sure you only let this go as far as you feel comfortable letting it get with her. I know you love her and your grandchildren, but it is important that we all love our own sanity and well being more.
HUGS HUGS HUGS
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Amy, it sounds like the family understands the bare min. of what is going on. Maybe it's best to just say, yes, she has some issues, and move on. I would not discuss with them. There is nothing you can do yourself.
I pray the outpatient helps her. Many, many hugs my friend.
I pray the outpatient helps her. Many, many hugs my friend.
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I can't blow up, or do anything. I can just listen and get test results. I mean, I don't really even have to do anything for her to slap another RO on me, it would be her state of mind that day, and if she ever does that again, I will not go to court to fight it anymore. I just wanted a clean record, because I did nothing. Now, I just don't care anymore.
I really do appreciate the other stories of hypochondriacs, it made me feel like I was not alone.
My cousins do know more then I really want to know, about what they know. I try to keep those conversations at, I really don't know what is going on. They believe me because of the last RO, when she would go to their houses to badmouth me, and they would tell her that you are not going to talk to me about your mother like that, because I lived right next door to you while you were growing up, and I saw what a good mother your mother was to you. They all tell her not to talk about me to them, because they aren't listening to it.
Anyway, still no drama here. Relief !!!!! Have not heard anything at all about that outpatient treatment that she is going to, or any doctor visits regarding the test results.
This may sound strange here, but I am on facebook, but she is not a friend of mine on facebook. My sister gave me her password to facebook in case I ever want to know what my daughter is posting. (lol) I would prefer not to know anything, but my mom is 83 and she reads facebook.
Sometimes, it's like why am I even looking at that fakebook. The last picture she posted yesterday, she was in an embroidered white short dress at a baseball game. It was from about 2 or 3 years ago. Who does that????
I'll just go with, no news is good news and leave it at that.
I don't call my daughter, she never answers her phone when I call, even though she has her phone with her all the time, when I questioned this, she laid into me. So the special phone tone I have for her did not ring for me since last Friday.
Thanks for thinking of me,
amy
I really do appreciate the other stories of hypochondriacs, it made me feel like I was not alone.
My cousins do know more then I really want to know, about what they know. I try to keep those conversations at, I really don't know what is going on. They believe me because of the last RO, when she would go to their houses to badmouth me, and they would tell her that you are not going to talk to me about your mother like that, because I lived right next door to you while you were growing up, and I saw what a good mother your mother was to you. They all tell her not to talk about me to them, because they aren't listening to it.
Anyway, still no drama here. Relief !!!!! Have not heard anything at all about that outpatient treatment that she is going to, or any doctor visits regarding the test results.
This may sound strange here, but I am on facebook, but she is not a friend of mine on facebook. My sister gave me her password to facebook in case I ever want to know what my daughter is posting. (lol) I would prefer not to know anything, but my mom is 83 and she reads facebook.
Sometimes, it's like why am I even looking at that fakebook. The last picture she posted yesterday, she was in an embroidered white short dress at a baseball game. It was from about 2 or 3 years ago. Who does that????
I'll just go with, no news is good news and leave it at that.
I don't call my daughter, she never answers her phone when I call, even though she has her phone with her all the time, when I questioned this, she laid into me. So the special phone tone I have for her did not ring for me since last Friday.
Thanks for thinking of me,
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I need some opinions on this. Dental care for children.
My daughter was at my house for vacation last year with my 2 grandchildren. She was telling me that she finally got her H to agree that she could take him to a dentist. She said she did take him to a dentist. He was 9 then. The dentist told her that he needs a few root canals, some caps, and periodontal work.
She then told me that they were having trouble with their health coverage because of ACA. They did not get health coverage through ACA. She said every time they paid the monthly premium for it, the insurance company returned it, and also sent another check to them for what they paid in the monthly premium. Confusing, I know. So her H again refused for her to take him in for dental work, because he didn't know if they were actually covered. He refuses to pick up a phone to find out what the problem is.
I knew I couldn't say anything about this, even though I did, but I had to drop it, because yep, that RO will be in the mail shortly.
I broached the subject with my son very gently. My son told me that he did notice a problem with his teeth, and dental hygiene. My son was the one who prolonged that conversation. I was actually feeling this might be OK, because my daughter will listen to my son, and she won't listen to me. Do you think that I was trying to put him in the middle of things? I didn't say that I think my grandson needs dental work, I said what she told me about the insurance.
amy
My daughter was at my house for vacation last year with my 2 grandchildren. She was telling me that she finally got her H to agree that she could take him to a dentist. She said she did take him to a dentist. He was 9 then. The dentist told her that he needs a few root canals, some caps, and periodontal work.
She then told me that they were having trouble with their health coverage because of ACA. They did not get health coverage through ACA. She said every time they paid the monthly premium for it, the insurance company returned it, and also sent another check to them for what they paid in the monthly premium. Confusing, I know. So her H again refused for her to take him in for dental work, because he didn't know if they were actually covered. He refuses to pick up a phone to find out what the problem is.
I knew I couldn't say anything about this, even though I did, but I had to drop it, because yep, that RO will be in the mail shortly.
I broached the subject with my son very gently. My son told me that he did notice a problem with his teeth, and dental hygiene. My son was the one who prolonged that conversation. I was actually feeling this might be OK, because my daughter will listen to my son, and she won't listen to me. Do you think that I was trying to put him in the middle of things? I didn't say that I think my grandson needs dental work, I said what she told me about the insurance.
amy
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