Therapist's Advice and Confusion Over Detaching
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Originally Posted by Wisconsin 
As always, FS gives great advice. In the 96442654 conversations my STBXAH and I have had about me preparing to leave, me leaving, and the fact that I actually left, he almost always asks me why I left. I tell him, honestly, why. He always responds with "well, you did this and this and this and that, and you are horrible, too." And I shut it down with "but we are not talking about why YOU left ME. We are talking about why I left YOU."
I hope that, through my time here, the work I'm doing with my counselor, my deeper exploration of self, and leaving ABF I will come out with just a fraction of the strength you've demonstrated.
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Originally Posted by jenniferlynne76
Good for you, Wisconsin. What an empowered way to face the discussion.
I hope that, through my time here, the work I'm doing with my counselor, my deeper exploration of self, and leaving ABF I will come out with just a fraction of the strength you've demonstrated.
I hope that, through my time here, the work I'm doing with my counselor, my deeper exploration of self, and leaving ABF I will come out with just a fraction of the strength you've demonstrated.
But seriously...it is a long road, that can very much be three steps forward, a hundred steps back. I think you are doing splendidly.
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Originally Posted by Wisconsin
That is incredibly kind to say. If only you'd seen how totally batsh*t crazy I was for a long, long time.
But seriously...it is a long road, that can very much be three steps forward, a hundred steps back. I think you are doing splendidly.
But seriously...it is a long road, that can very much be three steps forward, a hundred steps back. I think you are doing splendidly.
Thank you SO much for the continued encouragement.
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ive been on both sides of a relationship- a drunken SOB sicko and then after i got sober the codie. man did i get a taste of what i put the women i was in relationships through with that relationship!
and what a bugger it was to accept that no matter how hard i tried i am not capable of saving anyone- i cant cure anyone.
and in trying do do so i was avoiding the real problem-me.
and what a bugger it was to accept that no matter how hard i tried i am not capable of saving anyone- i cant cure anyone.
and in trying do do so i was avoiding the real problem-me.
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