Liveitwell

Tonight's onslaught of messages delivered via Our Family Wizard.....

Six messages tonight threatening me, telling me we need to work this out or spend thousands in court, then telling me to answer my phone (he didn't call), then telling me to go call my daddy. Yep-could t make this stuff up. It's a Tuesday which have usually been some of the worst drunk nights for some reason. Par for the course. How does this affect me? Not one iota. I read them, say a prayer for him and go on with my life to spend time with what matters-my kids. What an idiot. Seriously?!

Thoughts?!
P.S. I think WTBH and I are trying to compete for most delusional alcoholic and abusive ex husband. Yay for us.

amy55

Hey, ((((((((hugs))))))))), you know if this goes to court you will kick his a$$.

Save all of those drunken messages, and then get a good night sleep.

(((hugs))))
amy

suki44883

They're just precious, aren't they?

Liveitwell

^ su*i-I love the word precious yes, they are something....

amy55

testing here..... why are all the *'s showing up as *. I didn't do that.

Liveitwell

Dunno! I just noticed that!!!!!

amy55

Perhaps, late April Fool's Day jo*e.

amy55

Fog, Admins are aware of the missing cay letter, it will be restored shortly. It is hard to type without that cay letter.

Bekindalways

Thanks Amy I was wondering.

Refiner

Perhaps I should start a thread but a reminder to all to take their court ordered "rules" seriously in DV cases. Just had a man-wife here think they could break the order and meet up in person to "talk". Out in a parking lot of a strip mall in her car. He took out a gun and shot her, got out of the car and shot himself. All because she trusted him to just "talk" IN PERSON. They think she will live. He is dead.

Kata

Ah yes, Tuesdays! I'm well acquainted with Tuesdays! Afterall XABF gets his unemployement check every other Tuesday! Don't ask me why, but for some reason, even on the Tuesdays where he doesn't get his check, it's still a drunken night.

This week, the fucktard realised that he could call me using another number.... And no, I cannot turn my phone off before a reasonable hour (7 pm) as It is my business phone and clients often call at night.

And when that didn't work, he messaged me on Google chat... I had forgotten to block him from there as he never used it! Oh the joy!

Liveitwell

^ Kata, it's like the alcoholic mantra: "why Tuesday? Why the heck not. Every day is a good day to get drunk!"

Liveitwell

@Refiner, I will never be meeting him to discuss or talk about anything. I can promise you that.

hopeful4

Wow....my XAH had a drunken Tuesday tangent with myself and my DD as well. We are just so lucky and blessed to have to put up with this BS. Ugh.

Praying

Good for you FOG!

And even better if you've made it so far that your stomach doesn't lurch when you see messages on Family Wizard...

wanttobehealthy

What on earth is he ranting for? Doesn't he refuse to see your kids? Yet he is threatening to take you to court? Same as mine... sees court as a punishment (which frankly it is as it interferes with my job)

What do you guys use Family Wizard for? Do you have to enter the kids activities into it? I have considered using that with xAH but I really don't want to provide a roadmap for him to stalk where I am with the kids when it is NOT his parenting time...

I wish my xAH would put more of his crap into writing as yours does... His rant about summer camp was a good one for sure-- but more often, he sends emails trying to engage in talks about DD's, that are thinly veiled attempts at drawing me into conversation.

I truly think if I agreed to not have xAH pay a cent in CS, he would go away forever. I am beginning to think it might be worth it...

Liveitwell

WTbH-he's ranting bc he obviously has nothing better to do. Yes, he lost all visitation over a year ago. He's just a sad little bully who doesn't follow any court order so he likes to try and act like the big ole man he is by threatening and bullying me. He's a sperm donor, not a father-his actions have proven that.
He's prob spiraling more bc the girls and I are moving very soon. I hear this is what abusers do when control is no longer available. It doesn't matter why he's doing it bc it's not my life-it doesn't affect me. I have many more better things to do than spend a minute on him and his craziness.

FireSprite

I don't know anything about this Family Wizard, but it sounds like it gives you a mailbox to dump all his quacking into so that you can sort it later, at your convenience, for things of actual importance?

If so - that is freaking brilliant! How awesome that you can step away from crazy & focus on more important things, even for just a little while.

Liveitwell

FS-yes, it is awesome. I disabled the auto notification feature a while ago just bc of what stuff he pulled last night. It's pretty common for him to get drunk and fire off 5-10+ messages withink an hour or so....and getting dinged each time he sends a loony message just gets old...it's par for the course. Yes, it allows me to go on with my life and not get dragged down by his craziness.

hopeful4

If my X continues his crap I may sign up for Family Wizard as well. It sounds like a good thing to have. Although my X would not be stupid enough to put his rants into an email I don't think. He ALWAYS texts, which I screen shot and have records of. He seems to think those would never make it into court, which I hope he is wrong about.

My attorney tells me to just document always, so that is what I do.

Much love friends!