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Old 03-14-2016, 03:03 PM
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It's a real tough one....as I can't just go pointing the finger as it's really rocky ground and to wrongly accuse him could cause some many problems.
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Old 03-14-2016, 03:24 PM
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Hi Dodge, you are indeed stuck between a rock an a hard place. At least, you have doubts abd are aware of his friends "situation". You can now keep an eye open. As he doesn't have custody of your child, you can feel "safe" in that respect. If he ever wants custody ir access, you can see then what can be done to prevent that.

Until then, I would make sure there is now way he can have access or contact with your child. Make sure he can't go to the school, that no family member will ever let him within 10 feet of your child, etc.
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Old 03-14-2016, 03:39 PM
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I've made things pretty difficult for him anyway beings as he only tries to use contact to be in my company or home. Also I've already been able to look at his criminal record a while back given his past history and dramas. Luckly he's not close enough to have regular contact.
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Old 03-14-2016, 03:41 PM
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I did get advice today as I do like to get everything in black and white. If he was to push through the courts for access he doesn't really have a leg to stand on. The most he would get is a contact center and he won't do that as it would mean no contact with me.
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Old 03-14-2016, 04:20 PM
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Good to hear Dodge. Keep your eyes open, and I do understand that you can't make unfounded accusations, but they can be slippery. I am just very protective of children because they are so vulnerable and have no voice as compared to an adult.
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Old 03-14-2016, 04:55 PM
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Very true they trust me to protect them. Part of me thinks I should just come right out and ask him, why he's friends with this guy.
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Old 03-14-2016, 07:48 PM
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It would be good to get his view on it.

You could learn a lot from that because I can't think of anyone who would choose to be a friend with someone who had such accusations laid. If he is guilty.

Might have to see the results of the trial but from my experience children are seen as being unreliable witnesses because they are so young and are eaten alive by the Defence.
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Old 03-15-2016, 06:51 AM
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Sad thing is I already know what reaction I'm going to get, and not a nice one. My thoughts are how do you get in that situation where you are accused of such terrible things and not once but twice?
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Old 03-18-2016, 01:55 PM
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It doesn't seem good if you can't even talk about such an important issue. Twice is two too many times for me.
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Old 03-18-2016, 05:26 PM
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Right now I can't talk to him I don't even want to try. We only exchange texts ( I don't get in to phone conversation at the moment because I take the bait everytime and he ruins my day). The last text I got a few days back saying" I have no drink problem I'm celebrating how wonderful my life is" And then another " I want Dna and my name wiped off the birth certificate, you are a dirty ***** who can't be trusted" And another " I miss our child when can I come over".
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Old 03-19-2016, 02:22 AM
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Forgive me for intruding but this guy sounds like like a sociopath.

And the attributes that you ascribe to him often fit (not always) with the personalities of those who think that child sexual abuse is OK. It's never OK,

I'd stop texting him back because your sociopath is pretty hard wired,
Won't/ can't change and it's a mind bender. I wouldn't want to know about him. However.......
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Old 03-19-2016, 02:47 AM
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Maybe so I've often wondered that myself. I do keep well away from him and don't reply to texts that are baiting me into a fight. I know when I start getting texts like this he's on a bender or been drinking for a week or so...
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Old 03-19-2016, 02:56 AM
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He reminds me of trying to reason with a 3 year old child. Will say and do anything for attention or a glimmer of a reaction. Hence why I don't reply...
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Old 03-19-2016, 06:12 AM
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So long as the kids are safe that's all that matters.
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Old 03-19-2016, 07:05 AM
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He has no chance of that...
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Lioness.
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