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How Can You Tell if Someone is Sorry ? For Real? | Visionary Womanhood

I often think of how many times I heard "I'm sorry" during my marriage-and how many times it inevitably went back to the same behavior within a period momths, weeks or even days towards the end. Sometimes I got a tearful "I'm so sorry, it will never happen again" on hands and knees and sometimes I got a screaming "I'm sorry" as he slammed the door walking out of the house. I wish I had known then what I finally figured out, but I'm grateful to have figured it out. It's so hard when you so want them to mean it....and I think we shoot ourselves in the foot if we are not educated in abuser lingo. So this thread helps with what sorry looks like-vs just being said.

So, just thought as I read so many postings weekly of "he says he's sorry-how do I really know?!" Or "how will I know he's changed when he gets out of rehab", etc. This is a great read to guage when sorry really means sorry. (Actions vs words thing again).

Hope it helps! I thought it was a great read-kind of along the lines of Lundy's very informative readings.

Peace to y'all

lizatola

Thank you for sharing that. I have come to learn that talk is cheap but that was just my own experience with an alcoholic!

Kboys

Thanks fog. Great article

Lilro

Yes, talk is cheap. How many times can one say they are sorry about the same thing over and over again? After a while those words don't even mean anything.

In the very last conversation I had with my exabf he told me he wasn't saying it again, that if I didn't like what had happened the night before it was MY problem and I should get over it. I'm sure he was a few drinks in by then ( it was 11am on a Sunday ) but none the less that was my breaking point. Enough!
Sorry is as sorry does.

Liveitwell

Yep. The last couple years of my marriage were like that. Heard that almost daily.

tomsteve

i said "im sorry" so much my ex started saying," yer friggin right youre sorry."

just empty words.