Letters from rehab
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One thing always to keep in mind is however "unfair" or "unreasonable" the law may seem (or even BE), the last thing you want is to hand your abuser a metaphorical loaded gun to use against you.
Except in the rare situations where breaking the law is absolutely necessary to prevent IMMINENT harm, it's best to find out what the law requires and follow it to the letter (and do whatever you can to mitigate any problems that may ensue). Being in the moral "right" isn't going to help much if you wind up being charged with a crime (like parental kidnapping) or appearing to disregard the court's orders, yourself (which damages your credibility and allows the abuser to appear reasonable and you to appear like the law-breaker, which may hinder your efforts to protect your children).
Except in the rare situations where breaking the law is absolutely necessary to prevent IMMINENT harm, it's best to find out what the law requires and follow it to the letter (and do whatever you can to mitigate any problems that may ensue). Being in the moral "right" isn't going to help much if you wind up being charged with a crime (like parental kidnapping) or appearing to disregard the court's orders, yourself (which damages your credibility and allows the abuser to appear reasonable and you to appear like the law-breaker, which may hinder your efforts to protect your children).
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Ok For, can I just tell you that this post made me sick to my stomach. I'm pissed!
Really???? Reading a letter to CHILDREN about their SICK dad. BIG NO. He's an ass and obviously only thinking about himself and what's good for him! I have a sneaky suspicion that this is somehow, somewhere down the line be turned around on something that will be your fault.
Your children do not need to know such things, they are children. Hell, I didn't tell my son about his dad's prescription drug use until just recently and that was because I had to, and he's 16 going on 17.
I know that you know the correct thing to do... Don't feel guilty not one smidge about it. You don't owe him anything!!
Ok.. I'm done ranting.
Big hug!!!!!!!!! BIG!
Ro
Really???? Reading a letter to CHILDREN about their SICK dad. BIG NO. He's an ass and obviously only thinking about himself and what's good for him! I have a sneaky suspicion that this is somehow, somewhere down the line be turned around on something that will be your fault.
Your children do not need to know such things, they are children. Hell, I didn't tell my son about his dad's prescription drug use until just recently and that was because I had to, and he's 16 going on 17.
I know that you know the correct thing to do... Don't feel guilty not one smidge about it. You don't owe him anything!!
Ok.. I'm done ranting.
Big hug!!!!!!!!! BIG!
Ro
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Originally Posted by Forourgirls 
Lexie-I'm not claiming anything to he unfair or breaking court orders or anything like that.
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