saggirl1125

Thank you... I think you're all right, which is why I thought I should ask before acting. Still trying to get the hang of this rational vs. emotional stuff. This is a pretty hard habit to break! I think I had an easier time quitting smoking after 20 yrs!

amy55

I agree, dealing with our emotional side is so much harder. I think the reason for this is because our rational side will never understand their irrational side. I think it is too much of trying to make reason out of nonsense, then to know that this is how their brain is actually wired, and this is how they actually think.

I remember hearing things like, well you fight, you treat the other person as the enemy, you can say and do what ever you want, then you have sex and make up. It wasn't till I actually left, that I realized that he actually meant those things. He wasn't just trying to have a "go" at me. That was his mind.

Just relax tonight, and if he wants rehab, he will find a way to go.

(((((hugs)))))
amy

Hawkeye13

You need to file for that RO ASAP because what if he doesn't get into detox
and keeps drinking?
Can you afford to move out and let him have the house?
If not, getting the RO is how you can legally stay in the house and keep him out
at least for a little while.

You may also be at risk of having the children removed from this dangerous situation
if you don't take decisive action if CP is involved already.
This really does sounds like it is a very volatile and potentially violent situation--
please do not assume he won't get physical because he hasn't before.
That could be a fatal mistake.
I strongly suggest you call your local woman's shelter in the morning and speak
to someone about the situation and ask for some expert advice on what to do
next and steps you can legally take to protect yourself and your kids.

I'm really sorry you are going through this. Sounds horrible.

amy55

I stayed at a DV shelter. Phone line are manned locally and nationally 24/7.

1-800-799-SAFE.