Getting his stuff- be there?
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Thank you guys.
He did come and everything is now gone! It was an exhausting day and when I finally sat down to the computer I fell asleep. (Good!)
I have such amazing friends.
He was very cold and distant and so were all of his friends. Didn't let me know when they were coming, didn't say hello even though I came out to show them where the stuff was... I didn't understand that, because he had been honest with them about why everything happened--but I think it was probably a really hard day for him, so I'm trying to chalk it up to that. I'm also trying to imagine that maybe I had tiny body movements or looks that he interpreted as me being cold or rude...because when people split I know there's tons of lack of benefit of the doubt.
I am such a handy person and we were all prepped to replace my door and put the spindles in--but I was USELESS. I was like in a fog and my friend worked on the door while I wandered around aimlessly and waited for them to finish. It's stupid--I was somehow crazy worried they were going to take some of my stuff? It's just stuff! Lots of emotions I guess. I think I was also shocked it was actually happening since some part of me feared it never would.
His sponsor helped too. Here's something funny. I could tell who were the AA guys vs his other friends simply by their attitude. All of them knew our story, but the AA guys were warm and kind and looked at me, and we exchanged pleasantries. (So did my friends.) He and the others didn't do the same with me when I tried. I found that interesting.
When they were done my friends and I just sat at the kitchen table for a while, then did laps to the garage and basement a few times, floored that it was so empty and loving it. FINALLY we got to the stairs and I became helpful again--there's more left today but we made at least some progress there.
Wrapping my head around the fact that I'm actually free...what a burden lifted...
He did come and everything is now gone! It was an exhausting day and when I finally sat down to the computer I fell asleep. (Good!)
I have such amazing friends.
He was very cold and distant and so were all of his friends. Didn't let me know when they were coming, didn't say hello even though I came out to show them where the stuff was... I didn't understand that, because he had been honest with them about why everything happened--but I think it was probably a really hard day for him, so I'm trying to chalk it up to that. I'm also trying to imagine that maybe I had tiny body movements or looks that he interpreted as me being cold or rude...because when people split I know there's tons of lack of benefit of the doubt.
I am such a handy person and we were all prepped to replace my door and put the spindles in--but I was USELESS. I was like in a fog and my friend worked on the door while I wandered around aimlessly and waited for them to finish. It's stupid--I was somehow crazy worried they were going to take some of my stuff? It's just stuff! Lots of emotions I guess. I think I was also shocked it was actually happening since some part of me feared it never would.
His sponsor helped too. Here's something funny. I could tell who were the AA guys vs his other friends simply by their attitude. All of them knew our story, but the AA guys were warm and kind and looked at me, and we exchanged pleasantries. (So did my friends.) He and the others didn't do the same with me when I tried. I found that interesting.
When they were done my friends and I just sat at the kitchen table for a while, then did laps to the garage and basement a few times, floored that it was so empty and loving it. FINALLY we got to the stairs and I became helpful again--there's more left today but we made at least some progress there.
Wrapping my head around the fact that I'm actually free...what a burden lifted...
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