Trying to stay true to myself
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Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: Western US
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Purging and sleeping sounds like a great start to self-care.
I always have the urge to thank folks who are working on either sobriety or recovery from codependency. I really believe the most positive changes we make in the world are when we take care of the garbage in our own psyches.
So . . . . Thank you Findingme for taking on this so important and so difficult work.
I always have the urge to thank folks who are working on either sobriety or recovery from codependency. I really believe the most positive changes we make in the world are when we take care of the garbage in our own psyches.
So . . . . Thank you Findingme for taking on this so important and so difficult work.
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Join Date: Nov 2015
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FM, what a story! I wish you the best of luck. I cannot say enough good things about no contact. It really helped me grieve the relationship in peace without making an @ss of myself to my addict ex. It's not easy, but if you get through the process you'll find peace. When the break up first happened, I tried to do nice things for myself: a massage or a facial, a pleasant walk through nature, etc. I kept a no contact journal for the first few months after my breakup and cleaned my entire house.
I, too, was angry and my pride was hurt. I felt like a fool for not following my gut instincts, etc. But I'll know better next time and I don't beat myself up over it. There are lots of books on amazon and online about no contact. And, of course, this forum is the best. You can do this! Take care of yourself and your kids first.
I, too, was angry and my pride was hurt. I felt like a fool for not following my gut instincts, etc. But I'll know better next time and I don't beat myself up over it. There are lots of books on amazon and online about no contact. And, of course, this forum is the best. You can do this! Take care of yourself and your kids first.
Our wonderful babysitter came over yesterday while I was at work to borrow our car for a bit. She surprised me by cleaning and organizing the kitchen, which was an embarrassing mess. It felt so nice to come home to a clean place, I am so thankful for her!
I still have plans to get some errands done this weekend and some more cleaning projects around the house. I'm feeling so much more in control of my life right now. It's such a nice feeling that I've really missed. I talked to my mom for a bit last night and she was happy to hear the stress gone from my voice.
Thanks again to everyone here who has listened to my venting, given me good advice (even if I wasn't ready to hear it yet!) and has helped keep me sane over these past few weeks. I so appreciate the support!
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