Liveitwell

To those of us that were in abusjve marriages, y'all will read this and nod a lot-just like I did when I read this. To those of y'all wondering if what you're dealing with is abuse, I implore you to read this. Yes, it's biblically and Christian based but the truths hold true regardless of your faith or beliefs. Great article from my divorce support group:

Differences Between an Abusive Marriage and a Healthy One | Give Her Wings

Hope it helps someone today! It sure was timely for me
Peace to y'all, friends!

LeeJane

Wow, that was eye opening. Thank you, For Our Girls.

FindingAmy

wow. that was really good. even though my STBAXH was never physically abusive, i certainly lived a lifetime of abuse with him as always being made to feel "less than" simply by his being emotionally unavailable and lying all the time. I was always an afterthought, if a thought at all. And it is what I thought was normal. I am separated now and I hope I do someday meet a man that treats me with the love and respect that article spoke about. I don't even know what that will be like! Thanks, great post!

Liveitwell

^^ me neither! Actually, my ex did...at the beginning...but the drubken monster always came back out showcasing all his demons. I always held on to the next sober time during the abusive times. Sickening.

Lilro

Wow Four. This had me with the very first sentence. Thank you!

carolineno

Thank you for this. I have an acute problem with "future-tripping" about when I tell him I'm leaving. I worry about getting confused, the FOG, but when it comes down to it, "it is not normal" and that is enough.

ladyscribbler

Wow, thank you. I identified with every word of that article. Excellent reading.

DoubleDragons

Great article, thank you! I liked the part when she talks about not having to "earn love." I think that is a really hard lesson for us codependents to learn. I feel like I am always trying to "earn love" even from people who I know just love me for who I am.

Liveitwell

^ yep-me too.

mylifeismine

thank you, very helpful!