I'm new...and need some support...
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A person being an alcoholic (or a person with a substance abuse/drinking problem/addiction) isn't entitled to more chances than you would give someone in a normal relationship.
In fact, there is no hard rule that you have to treat them differently. We just do because, well it's a disease and we feel we're supposed to. I mean, if you try to stick through them with their disease, it is helpful for you to learn about the disease and learn how to disengage, etc., but that's if you want to stick it out.
Lying (or being misleading) about his former relationship was a big deal to you. So was his drinking, and you've had several conversations. He said he was straightening up - but he didn't. Then you had the Christmas party incident. You don't owe it to him to give him another chance just because he's got a problem. You don't have to stick around because he admits to a problem.
In fact, there is no hard rule that you have to treat them differently. We just do because, well it's a disease and we feel we're supposed to. I mean, if you try to stick through them with their disease, it is helpful for you to learn about the disease and learn how to disengage, etc., but that's if you want to stick it out.
Lying (or being misleading) about his former relationship was a big deal to you. So was his drinking, and you've had several conversations. He said he was straightening up - but he didn't. Then you had the Christmas party incident. You don't owe it to him to give him another chance just because he's got a problem. You don't have to stick around because he admits to a problem.
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