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Old 12-06-2015, 12:20 PM
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OK, so I'm re-engaging with SR

Hey Folks,

Been away for awhile because I was becoming toxic. Coming back because I think I can do so constructively, and also missed many of you (I'm pretty sure I'm down to one strike).

Very, very respectfully, and with sympathy, I'll avoid all posts and posters who are voluntarily in physically or mentally abusive situations because it's such a huge trigger for me, but will engage other places and try to be a positive part of SR.

I hope you are all well, and I'm very happy to be back.

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Old 12-06-2015, 12:27 PM
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I am SO overjoyed to SEE you Cy!!!! i have always gotten so much out of your posts and look forward to your message of hope again!

with much love and admiration, anvil
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Old 12-06-2015, 12:31 PM
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Hey, welcome back. My tough-love knob needs to be adjusted frequently, too.

I find my ignore list continues to grow, as well. There are a lot of trigger-y posts on this site, but I'm finding I react less to them than I used to. Don't know if I'm healing or if I just don't care to engage any more.

*edit to say, haha, your last thread was about the ignore list. . . I'll have to go read it now - you can probably teach me a thing or two.
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Welcome back!

Good idea to avoid threads that you find upsetting, but I'd just like to note for the record that however it may look to outsiders (or sometimes even to the victims themselves), remaining in an abusive relationship is seldom truly "voluntary," based on my own experience with thousands of such situations. I don't need for you to agree with me, but I'm just noting that for the benefit of others.

You had some terrific contributions to make here, so very happy to see you back!
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Noted. Thanks!

Duly noted!

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Welcome back!

Good idea to avoid threads that you find upsetting, but I'd just like to note for the record that however it may look to outsiders (or sometimes even to the victims themselves), remaining in an abusive relationship is seldom truly "voluntary," based on my own experience with thousands of such situations. I don't need for you to agree with me, but I'm just noting that for the benefit of others.

You had some terrific contributions to make here, so very happy to see you back!
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Thanks Anvil!

I think about you often as we are (or were) in the same neighborhood-- I always wonder if we've ever actually met and don't know it's us!

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I am SO overjoyed to SEE you Cy!!!! i have always gotten so much out of your posts and look forward to your message of hope again!

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Old 12-06-2015, 01:02 PM
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do you shop at Winco????
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Who doesn't?!? I love that place-- the serve your own candy isle is very, very dangerous!!!
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Hey, welcome back. My tough-love knob needs to be adjusted frequently, too.

I find my ignore list continues to grow, as well. There are a lot of trigger-y posts on this site, but I'm finding I react less to them than I used to. Don't know if I'm healing or if I just don't care to engage any more.

*edit to say, haha, your last thread was about the ignore list. . . I'll have to go read it now - you can probably teach me a thing or two.
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Old 12-06-2015, 01:14 PM
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What is Winco? There are a few near me and I've never been to one. Well, that may be a field trip for me today
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Winco is a local discount bag-yer-own grocery store. You can really slash your food bill - they have name brands and store brands. A huge bulk items section (including Cy's candy buffet!). Decent deli, pretty decent cuts of meat. I do our once a week shopping every Sunday morning...........
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Welcome back! It is fine for any member to avoid any post that is a trigger to them. As always, it's take what you want and leave the rest.

Glad you are here!
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Old 12-07-2015, 09:32 AM
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII View Post
Winco is a local discount bag-yer-own grocery store. You can really slash your food bill - they have name brands and store brands. A huge bulk items section (including Cy's candy buffet!). Decent deli, pretty decent cuts of meat. I do our once a week shopping every Sunday morning...........
Is it like Costco? Do you have to join, or pay membership?

I stopped by one yesterday afternoon, and there was no parking - the lot was packed! I thought I'd try again today.

*oops, Sorry Cyranoak for highjacking.
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YAY! I'm coming back after a break, too. glad to see you back.
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I was thinking about you the other day! Glad you are back.
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Hello and welcome back --

I mostly just lurk these days. I always thought you had a lot of valuable shares. I'm glad to see you here again.
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