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Question from other side
Hello all. I am an alcoholic in recovery almost 3 months. Recently my xgf texted me asking if i was in a new relationship. I said no and that i am working on myself to get better. She then said she is still dealing with a lot of anger and that maybe she should go to a meeting of allanon. A month ago she said she would never go. I said i thought it was great that she was thinking of going and told her times and days of meetings in the town we both live. I guess my question is why is she concerned about if im dating? I want to be supportive of her healing and i even recommended this site to her. Thanks for any comments
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I would t read too much into it. Sometimes during a break up with an RA the ex may have some unresolved anger about the situation- sounds like she does. Maybe along the lines of you are now getting healthy and she is still dealing with the fall out. Best for her to go to Al Anon and deal with it that was good advice.
I would t read too much into it. Sometimes during a break up with an RA the ex may have some unresolved anger about the situation- sounds like she does. Maybe along the lines of you are now getting healthy and she is still dealing with the fall out. Best for her to go to Al Anon and deal with it that was good advice.
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Yeah, we have a-ha moments too. I agree with Redatlanta - don't read too much into it. She might have been testing the waters, or just wanted information, and didn't want to intrude if you are with someone else. Congrats on your 3 months! Keep up the good work!
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She has been finding ways to stay in your life without committing to being in your life for months now. Keep the focus on you and let her work through whatever she is going through. You are doing great!
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Originally Posted by SparkleKitty 
She has been finding ways to stay in your life without committing to being in your life for months now. Keep the focus on you and let her work through whatever she is going through. You are doing great!
Keep the focus on you and your recovery right now
Without that, you have nothing,
with it, you have quite a bit no matter what
happens with the relationship in the future
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Thanks all, im doing my best and appreciate all the support. I really miss her and wish none of this had to happen but it did. All i can do now is get better one day at a time and hopefully one day she can forgive me. I never meant to hurt her. I think she knows that
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