My Dad Understood What Makes Me Tick
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My Dad Understood What Makes Me Tick
A big part of recovery is to identify your triggers and figure out ways to overcome them when temptation arises.
For me, it was a death in the family. My dad passed away a few years ago and he died with his boots on.
I wasn't overly sad at the funeral, but of course there were lots of tears and hugging.
I put my grieving on the back burner and then I a relapse a few years later because I realized I hadn't TOTALLY grieved and wasn't COMPLETELY DONE...
The part I miss the most about him was the fact that he really understood what made me tick. And there are just not very many people in this world who do...when I cross paths with them it feels like D-DAY!! And I somehow feel a bit shaken up.
So there were many things about my dad that we just clicked on and he was very perceptive about what I needed. He just KNEW when I wanted to be left alone...he GOT that. I get sooooo FRUSTRATED when I need to be alone and I can't.
Another thing we clicked on was music. We just sort of blended in really nice without even trying real hard. That was sublime and something I really miss....making sweet music together.
He never had a weight problem and kept himself pretty fit...
He didn't eat too fast. I get SSOoooo ANNOYED when people eat too fast. It just makes me feel all icky...probably because I am a VERY slow eater and always have been. He GOT that...in fact, being raised by him is maybe why I am such a slow eater...I learned it from him....
He was extremely outdoorsy; just his nature...he was happier outside than just about anywhere. He was part of it; part of the land...Well I'm that way too and likely got it from him!
So these are just a few things that I loved about my dad and what I miss and why he understood me so well.....
Again=a big part of sobriety is processing grief and I had to work through all that. I miss my dad so much.
For me, it was a death in the family. My dad passed away a few years ago and he died with his boots on.
I wasn't overly sad at the funeral, but of course there were lots of tears and hugging.
I put my grieving on the back burner and then I a relapse a few years later because I realized I hadn't TOTALLY grieved and wasn't COMPLETELY DONE...
The part I miss the most about him was the fact that he really understood what made me tick. And there are just not very many people in this world who do...when I cross paths with them it feels like D-DAY!! And I somehow feel a bit shaken up.
So there were many things about my dad that we just clicked on and he was very perceptive about what I needed. He just KNEW when I wanted to be left alone...he GOT that. I get sooooo FRUSTRATED when I need to be alone and I can't.
Another thing we clicked on was music. We just sort of blended in really nice without even trying real hard. That was sublime and something I really miss....making sweet music together.
He never had a weight problem and kept himself pretty fit...
He didn't eat too fast. I get SSOoooo ANNOYED when people eat too fast. It just makes me feel all icky...probably because I am a VERY slow eater and always have been. He GOT that...in fact, being raised by him is maybe why I am such a slow eater...I learned it from him....
He was extremely outdoorsy; just his nature...he was happier outside than just about anywhere. He was part of it; part of the land...Well I'm that way too and likely got it from him!
So these are just a few things that I loved about my dad and what I miss and why he understood me so well.....
Again=a big part of sobriety is processing grief and I had to work through all that. I miss my dad so much.
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