At last but not there
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At last but not there
So my ABF should be commencing his home detox (medically assisted) in 2weeks.
But he expects me to help for the 72hrs - have had to book annual leave as well find boarders for my guide dog.
I messaged his Mum about helping out but she hasn't replied.
Seeing detox nurse Tuesday so hoping they take a thorough history as he had a complicated detox with seizures last year.. I am going to tell her my concerns.
I love hom ad a person just hate this - I actually want him to have a fit so he can get help.
But he expects me to help for the 72hrs - have had to book annual leave as well find boarders for my guide dog.
I messaged his Mum about helping out but she hasn't replied.
Seeing detox nurse Tuesday so hoping they take a thorough history as he had a complicated detox with seizures last year.. I am going to tell her my concerns.
I love hom ad a person just hate this - I actually want him to have a fit so he can get help.
How does he expect you to "help" while he's in detox? That makes no sense. The medical professionals will be taking care of him. I'm not even certain they would allow you to be there--many detoxes don't allow visitors. Have you checked with the facility?
Probably to keep him safe? Catera- why is he so reluctant to go somewhere where he's monitored 24/7 thru the process? That's pretty disrespectful and presumptuous that he just expects you to take care of the ugliness and aftermath. That is very UNFAIR!!!
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Boarding my girl is for safety & in case of hospitalisation.
He is scared that it be different surroundings leading to further confusion (poor awareness of sightless). He fell in hospital last year.
He will still have a fit & end in hospital.. But quackery is taking him..
I don't know how to tell him I am not okay..
He is scared that it be different surroundings leading to further confusion (poor awareness of sightless). He fell in hospital last year.
He will still have a fit & end in hospital.. But quackery is taking him..
I don't know how to tell him I am not okay..
you could just speak your truth and say I am not comfortable with this, my own health is not sufficiently stable nor do i feel qualified to look after someone in your condition. Its ok to stand up for yourself and say NO. you aren't his nursemaid.
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I may still be confused here, am I understanding you are boarding the dog for its safety? Perhaps you should be considering your own safety into this equation?
You have EVERY right to tell him you are not ok with these arrangements, and he is going to need to seek additional help. You should not have to own this.
You have EVERY right to tell him you are not ok with these arrangements, and he is going to need to seek additional help. You should not have to own this.
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