Liveitwell

Friend sent this to me today. Had to share as I was unaware what was happening in my marriage for years....

"Don't expect abusive family members to make amends or even apologize. They will likely blame you more if you try to hold them accountable".

Sums up my experience! Thought I'd share as I know many of us struggle with "why does he do that?!".

Love and peace to you!

searching peace

Thank you for sharing! Sad but true that so many do that. In my opinion they feel so badly about what they are or have done and cannot stand to think they did that, it is easier to place blame on the person they are the closest to. Just my opinion.

Eauchiche

I have heard that if the addict does not acknowledge their own wrongs, they get projected onto other members of the family. Thanks for sharing!

Pia

Wow thanks for sharing

firebolt

Thank you! So true!

FeelingGreat

That applies to a situation in my life too, not concerning an addict. Sort of makes you give up on getting any acknowledgement of what they've done.

hopeful4

Isn't that the truth! And the family members of the family members (their FOO family) will do the same for them!

It's so huge when we can recognize this behavior and move past it!

XXX

Liveitwell

Yep! 100% accurate for my ex and his "family".