Pia

And it feels goood!!!!!!!!!!!

So long story short I told AH to get out. I didn't have to scream, shout or lose my cool.
His response was so you don't want to go to the coast then? I laughed so hard knowing WOW this is confirmation to me it's time. I didn't feel ashamed or guilty.

I'm looking at my post and realized I don't even care to rethink everything.

I wanted to post to those struggling and to let them know when you really work hard on yourself there is a payoff at the end. It called peace of mind and calmness.

Hugs to everyone!!!

Lilro

Good Morning and GOOD FOR YOU!!

maia1234

I got that peace of mind with a divorce and a new home. Miss my A, but not all crxp that came with him.

Hugs my friend and enjoy you peace and quiet.

Pia

Thank you Lilro and maia1234. Leaving him has been a rollercoaster of roadblocks and pain. I woke up this morning so refreshed and with no anxiety like before.
It's funny bc the first thing I thought of this morning is " Awesome I can go buy a new mattress a pee free mattress"
All the other times I didn't feel 100% right in ended it all maybe 90% or 95% but it is true when it is time you will know it.
It didn't end from a massive fight or a horrible thing done to hurt me. It was just time.

I hope this makes sense. I am still working on communicating clearly.

dandylion

Radiant:

Pia

Your so sweet dandylion.!!!!

maia1234

The last couple years of my marriage, I would say the serenity prayer about a million times a day, especially in the middle of the night.

Since my divorce and in my new home, I have not said it once, not once. I have it, naturally. Don't have to ask for it. You are on that path!! Bless you Radiant you have paid your dues and deserve a nice pee free bed.

Hugs my friend!!!!!

biminiblue

Perfect. Hold on to that feeling.

Your life is about to blossom in ways you had no idea were possible

Hawkeye13

Hooray for you!

JOIE12

Best wishes to you. I remember when I left all those years ago. As difficult as it was ... I could breathe finally. A huge sigh ....

Pia

Everyone's words mean so much to me. Its interesting I always thought a big fight or a boundary had to be crossed as if that was the last straw and it didn't happen that way. It was so small but it was enough.

Mia and Biminiblue not only do I understand your kind words but I believe it to be true.

Pia

Goodness- Here comes the text messages from his family. I am not responding to his nosy nellies.

BoxinRotz

Good for you! Short, sweet n to the point... Get OUT!

So glad he listened!!!

Pia

Thankfully I had company so he didn't want to make a scene.

LexieCat

How's your mom taking it? Don't let her lay guilt trips on you...

Pia

She has seen him come home late passed out and drunk for a couple weeks and finally she is understanding what the dynamic of the house is.

She is funny she told me If I had a man like that I would of kicked him out along time ago. hummmmm really now you say that??????.

Liveitwell

All the best to you, Radiant. Blessings on your new life!

TryGuy

Congratulations on this huge step towards a new and improved life for YOU! Really happy for you today and hope you will keep in touch. Stay strong and keep coming around, post if you need support moving ahead.

Good for you!!!

LexieCat

Sounds great! Now ENJOY your freedom.

Just be prepared for moments when you MIGHT feel like you're missing him. If that happens, post here before you pick up the phone or send that email. It's normal to feel that way, but maintaining contact only prolongs the pain.

Pia

So AH came by yesterday and picked up his clothes and left. I had anxiety for a bit but I refused to look into it.
I know for along time I have been by myself. I only had a shell of a husband. There was no laughing, talking, holding hands or being affectionate. It will only get worse and then what? Me taking care of him. I have my own life to live and love.

I hope everyone has a nice day!