Seren

Hello Kefka,

I have removed your post where you shared the entire contents of a written exchange between you and your ex. It is against forum rules, and it violates your ex-girlfriend's privacy since she did not give you permission to publish what she wrote on a public, searchable forum.

This thread explains in more detail.

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ure-forum.html

LexieCat

And we've been telling you that the best and only thing you need to be worried about at this point is staying sober and building a good base for your recovery so that someday you can HAVE an actual, real relationship built on mutual trust and respect.

Will she come back? Who knows? Not us, not you. Maybe not even her.

So let go of the uncertainty that has you all in a knot, focus on what you CAN do something about, and the rest will take care of itself, in due time.

redatlanta

You know Kefka I am beginning to wonder if you might be what we call a "double winner" here. On this side of the forum of F & F many of us on here aren't alcoholics, rather are codependent enablers. It is possible to be both.

Codependents are very controlling, trying to control and manage things they can't. When they can't control a situation they can really spin out of control. Your obsessive thinking about your Ex could stem from this. In previous break ups I have obsessed over an Ex to the point that it consumed my life. Inability to contact or stimulate contact very upsetting (control and manage). Talking to my friends to the point of their boredom and exhaustion as to whether we will "get back together" or whether I can figure out a way to get us back together. Failure equates to anger and depression.

I see some of this in you. I don't know if this is really an issue for you or not, but it might be worth you looking into the behaviors of codependency and enabling and see if you identify with it.