The Language of Letting Go, May 7
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The Language of Letting Go, May 7
May 7
You are reading from the book "The Language of Letting Go."
Letting Go of Fear
Fear is at the core of codependency. It can motivate us to control situations or neglect ourselves.
Many of us have been afraid for so long that we don't label our feelings fear. We're used to feeling upset and anxious. It feels normal.
Peace and serenity may be uncomfortable.
At one time, fear may have been appropriate and useful. We may have relied on fear to protect ourselves, much the way soldiers in a war rely on fear to help them survive. But now, in recovery, we're living life differently.
It's time to thank our old fears for helping us survive, then wave good-bye to them. Welcome peace, trust, acceptance, and safety. We don't need that much fear anymore. We can listen to our healthy fears and let go of the rest.
We can create a feeling of safety for ourselves now. We are safe now. We've made a commitment to take care of ourselves. We can trust and love ourselves.
Higher Power, help me let go of my need to be afraid. Replace it with a need to be at peace. Help me listen to my healthy fears and relinquish the rest.
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You are reading from the book "The Language of Letting Go."
Letting Go of Fear
Fear is at the core of codependency. It can motivate us to control situations or neglect ourselves.
Many of us have been afraid for so long that we don't label our feelings fear. We're used to feeling upset and anxious. It feels normal.
Peace and serenity may be uncomfortable.
At one time, fear may have been appropriate and useful. We may have relied on fear to protect ourselves, much the way soldiers in a war rely on fear to help them survive. But now, in recovery, we're living life differently.
It's time to thank our old fears for helping us survive, then wave good-bye to them. Welcome peace, trust, acceptance, and safety. We don't need that much fear anymore. We can listen to our healthy fears and let go of the rest.
We can create a feeling of safety for ourselves now. We are safe now. We've made a commitment to take care of ourselves. We can trust and love ourselves.
Higher Power, help me let go of my need to be afraid. Replace it with a need to be at peace. Help me listen to my healthy fears and relinquish the rest.
©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.
(Strictly speaking, not a window view, but chosen b/c I saw orioles out my kitchen window yesterday! They come every year.)
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This is so appreciated. So many of the people on this forum just helped me through an “anxiety loop” I had where I get stuck fixating on the same fear without solution over and over. I kept bemoaning that I didn’t understand where the fear was coming from.
But it’s as simple as this. Needing to be afraid. And I don’t need that anymore and am ready to let it go.
But it’s as simple as this. Needing to be afraid. And I don’t need that anymore and am ready to let it go.
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Originally Posted by edoering 
This is so appreciated. So many of the people on this forum just helped me through an “anxiety loop” I had where I get stuck fixating on the same fear without solution over and over. I kept bemoaning that I didn’t understand where the fear was coming from.
But it’s as simple as this. Needing to be afraid. And I don’t need that anymore and am ready to let it go.
But it’s as simple as this. Needing to be afraid. And I don’t need that anymore and am ready to let it go.
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