About to step foot in alanon....
About to step foot in alanon....
I haven't been to a church in years, I'm nervous!! I don't know these ppl and I'm hoping they're just as nice as you all here. I've hid behind a computer screen for too long, it's time to go out and interact face to face!
SO NERVOUS THOUGH- what should I expect???!
Pray that I actually go into the church...
SO NERVOUS THOUGH- what should I expect???!
Pray that I actually go into the church...
It's not usually "in the church" as in, in the sanctuary. It's usually in a basement or classroom or meeting room. And there might be the Serenity Prayer (or even the Lord's Prayer), but that is about all the "religious" stuff you will hear. There's talk about God, but it's in terms of "as you understand God," which might be the power of the universe or the power of the group.
Usually there are a few readings, and then there will be discussion about something that you read, or on a specific topic someone has chosen, or they might just go around the room and take turns sharing (it's fine to "pass" if you don't feel like talking). Generally "cross talk" is frowned upon--that's a direct response to what someone else has shared--we don't give advice in the meetings, we share our experience, strength, and hope. People usually only share once during the course of the meeting. Once the meeting is over (or before it starts) you're free to talk about anything you want, however you want. The conventions, which most groups follow, are to be sure everyone gets a chance to speak and to be listened to. No judgments, no advice. People can privately ask for or give advice outside of the meeting itself.
I think you'll find it a nice experience--most people do.
Usually there are a few readings, and then there will be discussion about something that you read, or on a specific topic someone has chosen, or they might just go around the room and take turns sharing (it's fine to "pass" if you don't feel like talking). Generally "cross talk" is frowned upon--that's a direct response to what someone else has shared--we don't give advice in the meetings, we share our experience, strength, and hope. People usually only share once during the course of the meeting. Once the meeting is over (or before it starts) you're free to talk about anything you want, however you want. The conventions, which most groups follow, are to be sure everyone gets a chance to speak and to be listened to. No judgments, no advice. People can privately ask for or give advice outside of the meeting itself.
I think you'll find it a nice experience--most people do.
Well, if that happens, you will be in good company. Lots of people have that reaction at their first meeting. If you break down, someone will pass you a tissue. Eventually--maybe not at this meeting, but soon--you will be able to speak. Trust me on that one.
True, that. I didn't speak until my 4th meeting, got a little blubbery, and felt such relief afterwards. I felt relief after the first meeting, too, with the realization that I was in the right place. Just go and listen. It's worth it even if it turns out not to be right for you.
So I actually found some strength to introduce myself and share why I was there- included a bit about my background. I stepped out of there feeling refreshed. I was most definitely the youngest one there. They were all so welcoming and hug-friendly. I am so happy to have stepped out of my comfort zone by going! Thanks guys
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