jarp

So god you have plans in place to get away from the abuse. I did notice that when i started disengaging my A actually became worse. A lot worse. So please be careful.

SadInTX

[It took me years to realize: with him, it is not alcoholism, it is ABUSE. Today we had a very brief conversation, and you know what he says: "You are so cold to me." He tells me that I am cold to him . . .

And I can only say "Ehmmmm . . ."

I can sooooo relate to this....my AH says I am the one that is being the **tch. When I try to detach he takes it as I am being cold, distant and unloving. It's definitely exhausting...I know how you feel. Sorry you are going through this...you are not alone...

LexieCat

Sad, I'm gonna suggest to you the same resource I just posted for someone else in Texas (yeah, I know it's a big state, but even if this place isn't close by they can be very helpful): Genesis.

SadInTX

Thanks LexieCat. I will look it up. I did go talk to someone recently but I did most of the talking...just needed someone to listen.....I hate being on the fence about things. But still figuring out my Plan B...