daydreamer0217

Lie : I love you, I have your back, you are the love of my life. I didn't mean to cheat, it was the alcohol

FireSprite

Lie: *I* don't need recovery - *I'm* not the one with the problem! How DARE everyone suggest that I need to fix ME, as if *I* caused this mess.

seasaw

Lie: this is normal every day stuff everyone deals with, i just need to suck it up and figure it out/be stronger
Lie: a doctor is smart enough not to get addicted to the meds they prescribe
Lie: i am a caregiver
Lie: if i'm good enough at caregiving, she will get better.

Lie: I owe my mom as much of myself, my time, energy, happiness, suffering, etc, as it takes because 'she has done so much for me'

seasaw

thank you for this thread.

BellaBlue

"If I just prayed enough, he would get better."

Jenibean87

Lie: if i tell anyone what is really happening, they will blame me...so I have to keep it a secret.

RedDog735

Lie: Everyone has problems, its my duty to try to work through them with my A.
Lie: I can heal him with my words.
Lie: If I distance myself/break up with my A because of his drinking, he will seek help and better himself for me.

sadsister62

what's the big deal? EVERYBODY has an alcoholic in the family!

Needabreak

If I show him respect, and offer him positive solutions, I can motivate him to change.

Mango blast

Lie:

I have to sacrifice, I have to settle.

LeeJane

Lie. You are making a fuss about nothing.

HardLessons

I'm in recovery the daily alcohol use on top of my daily methadone is my only vice

The shiny new orange needles you saw was from my steroid use a couple years ago

The small balloons with the funny marking on them which you found behind the fridge were from a birthday party

Those aren't injection marks on his arm they are chigger bites

I have no money because I'm not good at managing money

I'm sorry I don't mean to hurt you

hearthealth

Lie: It was only a couple.

Lie: At least he drinks at home.

atalose

The biggest lie the addict told me was that he NEEDED me in order to get clean/sober.

The biggest lie I told myself was that he NEEDED me in order to get clean/sober.

tomsteve

lie:
i can help her.

Cyranoak

This

CelticZebra

Sweet little lies: I didn't mean to, I'm sorry, it's not my fault, you make me so mad,
I wasn't like this before, it would be easier to drink.
Hopeless hope: he can change, I can make it ok, I feel guilt so I must be guilty
Plain lies: if I don't care nobody else will,

LLLisa

I am responsible for keeping this family together.
My happiness does not matter.

Eauchiche

If I only had more faith, I could move mountains.

Eauchiche

Real love is unconditional