I failed my weekend task
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I failed my weekend task
To buy something for myself. I can't think of anything that I feel like is worth spending money on. I simply can't. That and it's sooooooooo tricking cold outside I don't wanna go anywhere. I have been busy taking care of (and doting on) my sick puppy dog. I dunno. This is just sad. Can't think of ONE thing to do for myself? Sad.
To buy something for myself. I can't think of anything that I feel like is worth spending money on. I simply can't. That and it's sooooooooo tricking cold outside I don't wanna go anywhere. I have been busy taking care of (and doting on) my sick puppy dog. I dunno. This is just sad. Can't think of ONE thing to do for myself? Sad.
I was going to go out and get me something too! I have not looked at your profile, but I'm my own Valentine. Trying to be a bit happy.
I don't really see anything I would want. I HATE spending money. I always have it in the back of my head that I need this safety net.
You know that song "I'm in a hurry to get things done, I rush and rush until lifes no fun. All I really have to do is live and die, I'm in a hurry and don' know why."
I need to make sure my sons alright. I have to find work, I have to keep the utilizes going, I can't let my mom down--she done so much for me. I cry all the time, my son don't even want to be by me because I just break into tears. I think it's the isolation that's killing me.
I'm pitiful huh?
I like to sit in my comfy chair browsing Amazon
or Ebay for unusual, cute, up to date fashions,
earrings, causal dresses to wear during the day.
Maybe something relating to recovery,
my Faith, garden, tattoos, motorcycle
riding.
Back in the day, I collected CD's of my
favorite artists to listen to while riding
to work, or the park to walk, grocery
store, or waiting to pick up my kids
from band. Music has always been
huge thru out my life even tho I never
had the opportunity to learn to play
an instrument.
Simple things that make me smile
or feel good inside, appreciate is what
I look for to have around me.
Cozy cute slippers, flats, flowers that
I can grow in my yrd. garden, pots. Any
thing and everything red. LUV RED..!!!
And things that shine and are sparkly.
or Ebay for unusual, cute, up to date fashions,
earrings, causal dresses to wear during the day.
Maybe something relating to recovery,
my Faith, garden, tattoos, motorcycle
riding.
Back in the day, I collected CD's of my
favorite artists to listen to while riding
to work, or the park to walk, grocery
store, or waiting to pick up my kids
from band. Music has always been
huge thru out my life even tho I never
had the opportunity to learn to play
an instrument.
Simple things that make me smile
or feel good inside, appreciate is what
I look for to have around me.
Cozy cute slippers, flats, flowers that
I can grow in my yrd. garden, pots. Any
thing and everything red. LUV RED..!!!
And things that shine and are sparkly.
I'll tell you a great place to find something fun and cool: Novica. It's run by National Geographic and it sells items made by artists all over the world. Many live in remote villages in far-away places. There is jewelry and clothing and pottery and furniture/home decor. You can read the bios of the artists on the site. I've bought several things--mostly jewelry and pottery--and it makes me feel like I'm helping to support the artist as well as finding lovely gifts for myself.
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"I can't think of anything that I feel like is worth spending money on."
It sounds to me like you may need to buy yourself something that is NOT a necessity, and maybe isn't really worth the actual money spent. What I'm talking about is a "gift" to yourself.
My husband pretty much sucks at any holiday pertaining to anyone other than himself. So, I've decided that it's completely acceptable for me to buy me a gift. Not a gift that I then tell him is from him to me, but a gift that I tell myself is from me to me. I'm worth that.
For Valentine's Day I went out, and made myself buy myself some luxuries. I bought a good chocolate bar, a box of nice tea and a purse-sized bottle of fragrant hand lotion from Bath and Body Works. I spent under $10, but do feel like I did something nice for myself, and I didn't even notice his lack of effort for Valentine's Day.
Do you have a favorite tea or coffee you could go pick up for tomorrow's breakfast? Or a favorite treat food or goodie? If you ordered something from Amazon, then you'd have a small package to look forward to being delivered. But I definitely think we all need to do nice things for ourselves. You deserve to be treated well, even and especially by yourself.
It sounds to me like you may need to buy yourself something that is NOT a necessity, and maybe isn't really worth the actual money spent. What I'm talking about is a "gift" to yourself.
My husband pretty much sucks at any holiday pertaining to anyone other than himself. So, I've decided that it's completely acceptable for me to buy me a gift. Not a gift that I then tell him is from him to me, but a gift that I tell myself is from me to me. I'm worth that.
For Valentine's Day I went out, and made myself buy myself some luxuries. I bought a good chocolate bar, a box of nice tea and a purse-sized bottle of fragrant hand lotion from Bath and Body Works. I spent under $10, but do feel like I did something nice for myself, and I didn't even notice his lack of effort for Valentine's Day.
Do you have a favorite tea or coffee you could go pick up for tomorrow's breakfast? Or a favorite treat food or goodie? If you ordered something from Amazon, then you'd have a small package to look forward to being delivered. But I definitely think we all need to do nice things for ourselves. You deserve to be treated well, even and especially by yourself.
I'm trying to have 2015 be the year I actually take charge of my finances. I'm good with money, bad with impulses. A lot of online shopping, where I don't *see* the money really gets me in trouble. And student loan payments. I should have just bought a d*mn house instead!
Anyways, I read your post before I left to get some groceries. I bought myself two candles (BOGO) and gave a lilac one to my mom and kept the sweet pea.
Thank you for the idea.
Anyways, I read your post before I left to get some groceries. I bought myself two candles (BOGO) and gave a lilac one to my mom and kept the sweet pea.
Thank you for the idea.
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I'll tell you a great place to find something fun and cool: Novica. It's run by National Geographic and it sells items made by artists all over the world. Many live in remote villages in far-away places. There is jewelry and clothing and pottery and furniture/home decor. You can read the bios of the artists on the site. I've bought several things--mostly jewelry and pottery--and it makes me feel like I'm helping to support the artist as well as finding lovely gifts for myself.
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I have an idea..... I read today that I think it was Boston, of someone wrapping a scarf around a light post and putting a sign on it if you need it take it. I thought that was amazing with all the cold people out there, especially the east coast this year.
Why don't you go buy some hats, mittens scarves and go to the city and donate them to the homeless people or a shelter. The joy from giving is so much greater then buying something that you really don't need or want.
Just my thought!!
Why don't you go buy some hats, mittens scarves and go to the city and donate them to the homeless people or a shelter. The joy from giving is so much greater then buying something that you really don't need or want.
Just my thought!!
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Was this a self imposed task?
I remember a thread here to say something good about ourselves. I could not do it. It was a great awareness for me and really hurt. Alanon, working the steps with a sponsor, therapy, etc. One day at a time, baby steps. Healing comes.
I remember a thread here to say something good about ourselves. I could not do it. It was a great awareness for me and really hurt. Alanon, working the steps with a sponsor, therapy, etc. One day at a time, baby steps. Healing comes.
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You are important. You deserve kindness. It's okay to take it easy on yourself. I've been where you are, and still visit that place occasionally. Life does get better. Work the steps... they do work and you are worth it!
Maybe you DID do something for your today, a big lovely nothing. Sometimes doing nothing and loving on our little fur babies IS doing something for ourselves. It sounds like a doggone good time to me! Hugs..I don't think you failed.
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Well I ended up buying myself some bath and body works stuff online (the scent I really wanted is only sold online anymore-GAH BBW WHY must you discontinue all my faves lol). They had a buy 3 get 3 free deal with a 10% off coupon and free shipping. I did go to the mall, still had a Macy's gift card from Christmas. I needed more eye cream (my face only tolerates Clinique without breaking out horribly)........I found a perfume that I really wanted but I got the eye cream instead. I am sort of obsessed with fragrences. I felt guilty spending the BBW money but oh well.
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