F ing crazy............
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F ing crazy............
So this was Valentines for me:
The S.O has been away so wasn't here for Valentines Day.
Friday i was pretty sick when he called so you'd think that maybe on Saturday I'd get a call and of text seeing how I'm feeling and happy valentines day.
By 8pm last night nothing, so I texted him and thanked him for wishing me happy valentines day and seeing how I was and that my feelings were hurt by that.
I wanted to express that just sick of holding everythinbg in........
He writes me back that his truck had been vandalized and he spent all day working on that and hadn't thought of anythinbg else (still no apology nothing)
I wrote him back and said sorry about your truck it's in a locked yard isn't funny it would get vandalized there, what happened to it.
But you still could have texrted and or called me as I'm sure you did everyone else.
He calls this morning and leaves me a message to do him a favour and lose his number.
Like really? This is how you react and handle it?
The S.O has been away so wasn't here for Valentines Day.
Friday i was pretty sick when he called so you'd think that maybe on Saturday I'd get a call and of text seeing how I'm feeling and happy valentines day.
By 8pm last night nothing, so I texted him and thanked him for wishing me happy valentines day and seeing how I was and that my feelings were hurt by that.
I wanted to express that just sick of holding everythinbg in........
He writes me back that his truck had been vandalized and he spent all day working on that and hadn't thought of anythinbg else (still no apology nothing)
I wrote him back and said sorry about your truck it's in a locked yard isn't funny it would get vandalized there, what happened to it.
But you still could have texrted and or called me as I'm sure you did everyone else.
He calls this morning and leaves me a message to do him a favour and lose his number.
Like really? This is how you react and handle it?
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He is angry and raging... and probably hung over.
Sorry that you were sad that he "ruined" another holiday. I use to lower my expectations for the holidays so he couldn't ruin them completely. Terrible thing to say but so many terrible holidays dealing with an addict.
Happy Belated Valentines Day to you Earth Worm!!
Sorry that you were sad that he "ruined" another holiday. I use to lower my expectations for the holidays so he couldn't ruin them completely. Terrible thing to say but so many terrible holidays dealing with an addict.
Happy Belated Valentines Day to you Earth Worm!!
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He's sober 38 years so he's emotionally hungover...............
Originally Posted by maia1234 
He is angry and raging... and probably hung over.
Sorry that you were sad that he "ruined" another holiday. I use to lower my expectations for the holidays so he couldn't ruin them completely. Terrible thing to say but so many terrible holidays dealing with an addict.
Happy Belated Valentines Day to you Earth Worm!!
Sorry that you were sad that he "ruined" another holiday. I use to lower my expectations for the holidays so he couldn't ruin them completely. Terrible thing to say but so many terrible holidays dealing with an addict.
Happy Belated Valentines Day to you Earth Worm!!
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Earthworm...if he is solid sober for 38 years...have you considered that this is his norm?
Some people are just naturally self centered personalities...and, with those types, it is pretty much "what you see is what you get".
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Some people are just naturally self centered personalities...and, with those types, it is pretty much "what you see is what you get".
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yes it's called selfish, self centeredness.
Originally Posted by dandylion
Earthworm...if he is solid sober for 38 years...have you considered that this is his norm?
Some people are just naturally self centered personalities...and, with those types, it is pretty much "what you see is what you get".
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Some people are just naturally self centered personalities...and, with those types, it is pretty much "what you see is what you get".
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Earthworm...being in a relationship with a person who is selfish and self-centered at baseline is a very very painful way to live. A life of disappointment and lonliness...if one has any expectation at all of having their emotional needs met.
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Originally Posted by dandylion
Earthworm...being in a relationship with a person who is selfish and self-centered at baseline is a very very painful way to live. A life of disappointment and lonliness...if one has any expectation at all of having their emotional needs met.
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Earthworm....it sounds like you are looking for water in a dry well.
Don't you think you can ever find any better?....or, that you don't deserve any better...and that anything is better than "nobody?
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Don't you think you can ever find any better?....or, that you don't deserve any better...and that anything is better than "nobody?
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Originally Posted by Earthworm
Saying ąDo me a favour forget my number."
How juvenile.............when you are the one who f ed up.
How juvenile.............when you are the one who f ed up.
Do YOURSELF the favor of forgetting his number. You deserve better.
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Earthworm....there comes a certain point, that a person just has to stop beating a dead horse for their own peace of mind.
For sure he is behaving like an assxxxx. Nobody with any sensitivity could dispute that.
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For sure he is behaving like an assxxxx. Nobody with any sensitivity could dispute that.
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Someone here on SR, (I forget who and would love to credit them) used to quote this:
Worked for me. I kept this on my refrigerator for a LONG time. Haven't picked a dead horse since, and that's a relief.
There are better relationships out there.
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Old Cherokee Proverb:
When horse dies,
Dismount.
When horse dies,
Dismount.
Worked for me. I kept this on my refrigerator for a LONG time. Haven't picked a dead horse since, and that's a relief.
There are better relationships out there.
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Earthworm....you did nothing wrong. It is natural to WANT respect and kindness and emotional sensitivity from an intimate relationship. This is a natural part of healthy relationships.
His actions and attitude was emotionally "cold" and rejecting and insensitive.
I understand why you felt hurt. You had every right.
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His actions and attitude was emotionally "cold" and rejecting and insensitive.
I understand why you felt hurt. You had every right.
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