Thumper

Sesame Street can be great. I played that Sesame Street 'What I Am' video by Will.i.am for my kids shortly after the divorce. We danced around the living room to that song so many times and I have to admit that it may have been more for me than them, lol.

fluffyflea

Tomorrow night I will force myself to go out and be social.

NYCDoglvr

Alanon! I got my power back when I stop pointing the finger at a destructive alcoholic and started dealing with my own character defects. By taking responsibility for my actions, words and beliefs. It's a process that takes longer than I'd like but the only route to real peace of mind.

SeriousKarma

I love this.

Duckygirl1

When I realised that "this too shall pass". I take all of the love and care I have to others and gave it to myself. I tried to fix people and wore myself out, now I try to show them how strong they are, how strong we all are. Maybe we haven't tapped into it, but it's there.

bird13

I started to repeat this as soon as I realized I was awake in the morning: My life is changing and I am happy. My life is changing and I am happy.

I had to really unplug from what everyone around me was doing. My friends, both mutual and not mutual friends of me and Aexbf. Stopped worrying about what I was missing and stopped caring what other people thought. Didn't ask.

Next, I meditated a lot during the most painful times. I really prayed and looked inside me. Did tiny things that were relaxing alone, that I enjoyed at home, and went out when I could maintain that peace and go out too with friends and *keep my privacy.*

Meanwhile, I really got my power back when I realized completely and fully that I had been dooped all these years when I thought the A was going to leave me at any moment. I was always the powerful one. I became confident again just being in peace and quiet away from the daily deception and put downs. I became strong. And I felt beautiful again, inside and out and my intuition was in full force.

I had to take actions that showed the alcoholic, and stop telling him. I finally understood why everyone says that is so important. It was empowering. Things changed in how I was treated by everyone around me actually.

Now when I feel down or like things are starting to slip again, I just remember that things can be balanced out again and power can return by just taking a step back, and doing what feels *right.* Say less to the alcoholic, Do more. That works for me.