Not Acknowledging.........
I can say that in my own little imagination, I thought my XAH was being a jerk b/c he was an alcoholic. He was clean for a year, he was a jerk then too. I slowly came to realize that just because someone does or does not drink does not necessarily make them less of a jerk. Just my .02
And you are absolutely right, it is 100% NOT acceptable!
And you are absolutely right, it is 100% NOT acceptable!
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Amy55's story and this thread is reminding me of a recent revelation I had with my husband. He was complaining that I don't communicate. I asked for more particulars, which he gave me. Then I realized that I had told him my feelings on each of the issues he recalled; he just didn't agree with me. So I realized that for him, "communication" means listening to him long enough until I agree with what he says. When that doesn't happen, in his view we have a communication breakdown . . .
Yes, as Amy55 said and I'm now realizing, it's all about control.
Yes, as Amy55 said and I'm now realizing, it's all about control.
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Amy55's story and this thread is reminding me of a recent revelation I had with my husband. He was complaining that I don't communicate. I asked for more particulars, which he gave me. Then I realized that I had told him my feelings on each of the issues he recalled; he just didn't agree with me. So I realized that for him, "communication" means listening to him long enough until I agree with what he says. When that doesn't happen, in his view we have a communication breakdown . . .
Yes, as Amy55 said and I'm now realizing, it's all about control.
Yes, as Amy55 said and I'm now realizing, it's all about control.
that for him, "communication" means listening to him long enough until I agree with what he says. When that doesn't happen, in his view we have a communication breakdown . . .
Exactly how my x was. Spot on.
Exactly how my x was. Spot on.
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