pneumonia and alcoholism
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pneumonia and alcoholism
My xabf and father of my 6 year old daughter is currently in ICU with pneumonia in all 5 lobes of his lungs. He was placed on a ventilator this morning and given a 50/50 chance. He is 45 and was hospitalized 2 years ago for liver failure so I am not confident that his body can fight this. Has anyone else had a similar experience?
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My second husband went in with pneumonia, at that point went into acute withdrawal and liver/kidneys shut down. He was comatose for several days, given a slim chance of survival. He made it, but sadly, a few months later, went back to drinking.
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Unfortunately yes. My husband and I were separated when he ended up in the hospital with multiple complications including pneumonia and did not survive. Cause of death was listed as both pneumonia but the alcoholism was a primary contributing factor. my husbands pneumonia doesn't sound as severe as yours but many other things were going on as well.
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My daughter knows he is in the hospital but she does not know the severity of his illness. Honestly, she is rather indifferent to the fact that he is sick. He was never around much, even when we were living together. She knows that he is not reliable and has learned not to trust him. The whole situation is very sad and I am so angry that he is a crappy parent but I know that he will never change.
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Hugs and prayers. I have no words, having not been there, but I can at least pray for you all today. I'm sorry that you are facing this. My dad had pneumonia multiple times and was down to 30% lung capacity but still survived for a few years after each episode. Smoking and alcoholism don't help the lungs and circulation in the body. He knew he was killing himself slowly and admitted it to me multiple times. Please keep us posted.
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Update - he pulled through and is going to live. In fact, he should be out of the hospital in a couple days. I knew he was getting better when the hateful text messages started again. Our daughter knew her Dad was in the hospital but she did not know how sick he was (she just turned 6). Tonight, my exAB called our daughter and said "Did Mommy tell you that I almost died?" Of course this upset her. Then he asked if she was going to visit him. Our daughter said that she "has to ask Mommy". My exAB said "if you cared about me you would ask her now." Then he said "don't you love your Daddy? Don't you ever want to see him again?" He's back to his normal self <sigh>
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Originally Posted by Elis 
Tonight, my exAB called our daughter and said "Did Mommy tell you that I almost died?" Of course this upset her. Then he asked if she was going to visit him. Our daughter said that she "has to ask Mommy". My exAB said "if you cared about me you would ask her now." Then he said "don't you love your Daddy? Don't you ever want to see him again?" He's back to his normal self <sigh>
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