He relasped
I'm so sorry, free. The kind of self-hatred that he feels is really something that we, the family members, aren't qualified to address. I'm so sad for him, too. Sending hugs and prayers! I hope you were able to get some sleep last night.
Just one comment and it's on that relapse thing:
The relapse ended with a drink. Not even sure iffen I'd call it that as there doesn't seem to have been any change cept for not drinkin.
He just got drunk again.
The relapse ended with a drink. Not even sure iffen I'd call it that as there doesn't seem to have been any change cept for not drinkin.
He just got drunk again.
Oh Free... I'm so sorry it's happened. I know you saw it coming - you've learned so much! I wouldn't even call it a relapse, though as I don't believe he was ever IN RECOVERY. He was white knuckling through not drinking and abusing for a short while is all. I'm now very worried about you since now his cat's out of the bag he may just go all out. Stay safe, Free!
sorry you're right back here again FTS.
Even though you *saw* it coming, certainly doesn't make it an easier. That story about your son made my heart sink.
I hope you managed to get some shuteye. Stay safe, stay strong.
Even though you *saw* it coming, certainly doesn't make it an easier. That story about your son made my heart sink.
I hope you managed to get some shuteye. Stay safe, stay strong.
I understand the sadness. Big hugs coming at you. I will be wrapping you in one of my big quilts and offering your sadness up to the universal spirit today. May he give you comfort and peace and strength throughout this day. ((((((((())))))
Yeah you guys are right. He was never in recovery. It was all just so fake and I knew it was a while ago.
he was pretty nasty last night. Very nasty indeed. I slept like crap last night. I have a math test today..Ahhhh!
he was pretty nasty last night. Very nasty indeed. I slept like crap last night. I have a math test today..Ahhhh!
freetosmile....I hope that you got through the math test o.k.
You have survived so many really, really tough hurdles in your life. You have what it takes to survive this.
We don't know just how brave we are until just the moment we need it and there are no other options!!!
I think you are as tough as the pioneer women who settled Nebraska.
dandylion
You have survived so many really, really tough hurdles in your life. You have what it takes to survive this.
We don't know just how brave we are until just the moment we need it and there are no other options!!!
I think you are as tough as the pioneer women who settled Nebraska.
dandylion
free, I'm so sorry. I agree, he never really got into recovery at all--he was going through the motions. That happens with lots of alcoholics until it sinks in that you don't just "go to rehab" and come out "fixed." It isn't like going in and having your appendix out.
I think you've been mentally prepared to deal with this, though, which is a good thing--you weren't completely blindsided.
I'm REALLY sorry for the abuse and your lack of sleep. I hope you are able to come to a peaceful solution. You're so much stronger than you were when you came here, and you see things so much more clearly.
Consider talking with an advocate about your options. With the history of abuse, it may well be that you could get a protective order if you decide you need him out of the house. I'm afraid that continuing to live this way may start tearing you and the kids down again.
Many hugs, and I hope the math test goes OK. Sending you good vibes.
I think you've been mentally prepared to deal with this, though, which is a good thing--you weren't completely blindsided.
I'm REALLY sorry for the abuse and your lack of sleep. I hope you are able to come to a peaceful solution. You're so much stronger than you were when you came here, and you see things so much more clearly.
Consider talking with an advocate about your options. With the history of abuse, it may well be that you could get a protective order if you decide you need him out of the house. I'm afraid that continuing to live this way may start tearing you and the kids down again.
Many hugs, and I hope the math test goes OK. Sending you good vibes.
Thanks everyone. I really feel ready to leave this disaster forever. He kept sending all these texts last night when I was trying to sleep. I actually moved to the couch because between the dog and my daughter...there was NO room!
all his texts were just horrid.
I can do this. Its going to be ok. Isn't it?
all his texts were just horrid.
I can do this. Its going to be ok. Isn't it?
Since you're ready to leave that disaster, time to invest in some earplugs for the times he begins railing accusations against you that you know are false until you can change the situation, which I hope is soon for you. Don't give his nasty comments the time of day to roam free in your head...they are lies, lies, lies
Free, the verbal abuse that you are experiencing is absolutely unacceptable. My heart just breaks for you. I am glad you are breaking not only the cycle of alcoholism, but more importantly, the abuse. You are right, they only have one childhood.
Much love coming your way my dear friend.
Much love coming your way my dear friend.
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Free- I'm sorry you are going through so much pain and having to make some big decisions right now, but I know you are more than strong enough to get through this!! I agree with what you said about the kids only having one childhood, and that is one of my biggest struggles.
I hope you did ok on your math test!! Remember 'One Day at a Time'!!
I hope you did ok on your math test!! Remember 'One Day at a Time'!!
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He was never really working the steps....three AA meetings since rehab, are you ******* kidding me?
There's also nothing you or anyone can do about it. But you know this.
So, respond appropriately.
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