How to ever trust again?
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Lots of good advice above.
To add mine to the thread my advice is to start with yourself and the rest will follow.
Love yourself trust yourself and keep moving forward. You ARE worth it!
It's a tough journey but we are here to support you every step of the way.
Take care Phiz
To add mine to the thread my advice is to start with yourself and the rest will follow.
Love yourself trust yourself and keep moving forward. You ARE worth it!
It's a tough journey but we are here to support you every step of the way.
Take care Phiz
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: Yuma AZ
Posts: 21
Originally Posted by pinkpeony 
Oh yes, this is definitely far in the future! I was just thinking about trust.
I can't remember ever really truly trusting anyone except myself, with the exception of maybe the first 4-5 years AH and I were together.
I think as an ACOA I probably will always have trouble trusting.
I was also remembering a time this summer that I was borrowing my moms laptop and opened it up to find an email between her and my brother. My mom was going on and on about me in a back stabbing way. My brother participated a bit too. Things my mother had always told me one way, she was telling my brother in another way.
And it dawned on me then.... This is a huge part of the reason I can't trust.
People close to me have been two-faced towards me almost my entire life.
My father was an abusive alcoholic who ended up abandoning us, my mother was always emotionally absent, every man in my life except for my grandfathers have been alcoholics.....
I have major trust issues. I pretty much don't trust why thing anyone says and I've figured out that I have major true intimacy problems.
I am a hot mess.
I can't remember ever really truly trusting anyone except myself, with the exception of maybe the first 4-5 years AH and I were together.
I think as an ACOA I probably will always have trouble trusting.
I was also remembering a time this summer that I was borrowing my moms laptop and opened it up to find an email between her and my brother. My mom was going on and on about me in a back stabbing way. My brother participated a bit too. Things my mother had always told me one way, she was telling my brother in another way.
And it dawned on me then.... This is a huge part of the reason I can't trust.
People close to me have been two-faced towards me almost my entire life.
My father was an abusive alcoholic who ended up abandoning us, my mother was always emotionally absent, every man in my life except for my grandfathers have been alcoholics.....
I have major trust issues. I pretty much don't trust why thing anyone says and I've figured out that I have major true intimacy problems.
I am a hot mess.
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