Oh great he came home "mean drunk"
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Oh great he came home "mean drunk"
He got home about 30 mins ago and ever since I've had to be scolded about what a terrible person I am.
I am apparently the anchor that is holding him and everyone else I know down and he refusing to go down with me.
Apparently I have until Friday to pack and leave or he is packing and leaving and I will be sitting here with no car, no job, no income.
That I've never done anything for my dogs (my dogs are like my kids)- have no idea what he's talking about there.
That if I don't leave then he will leave and then my daughter and I will just end up starving and getting evicted and I will be screwing up my daughters senior year in high school . (We previously agreed that I would stay here with my daughter - we just moved to this new place Dec 1st- untily daughter graduates in an attempt to not add more stress to her load.
And on and on and on about all of my failures and shortcomings.
For some reason I'm actually a bit afraid of him tonight.
I am apparently the anchor that is holding him and everyone else I know down and he refusing to go down with me.
Apparently I have until Friday to pack and leave or he is packing and leaving and I will be sitting here with no car, no job, no income.
That I've never done anything for my dogs (my dogs are like my kids)- have no idea what he's talking about there.
That if I don't leave then he will leave and then my daughter and I will just end up starving and getting evicted and I will be screwing up my daughters senior year in high school . (We previously agreed that I would stay here with my daughter - we just moved to this new place Dec 1st- untily daughter graduates in an attempt to not add more stress to her load.
And on and on and on about all of my failures and shortcomings.
For some reason I'm actually a bit afraid of him tonight.
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Sounds like someone is upset that his bullish!t was called. My prediction is he will go off at all angles (including, at some point, telling you he still loves you despite what *you* did) hoping to scare you into backing down. Stay safe, can you and your daughter stay somewhere else for a little bit?
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My daughter is at a friends for the night thankfully. I can't leave because I don't have a working car and we live out in the country. There is no one to call that could come get me. So I just have to sit here and listen to it all, like in a child being lectured and scolded by my mean verbally abusive parent.
I try my hardest not to respond to anything he says so I don't engage in it.
Toight I'm nothing but a failure over and over and over again. And he would rather die than be me.
And on and on with every curse word you could think of thrown in for good measure.
I try my hardest not to respond to anything he says so I don't engage in it.
Toight I'm nothing but a failure over and over and over again. And he would rather die than be me.
And on and on with every curse word you could think of thrown in for good measure.
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He packed up his clothes and then went to leave. I breathed a huge sigh of relief then he came back in and said he's staying here tonight.
But he's flying out on a plane Monday morning and leaving me here alone to rot and die.
Blah blah blah.
I just wish he'd shut up and leave me alone.
But he's flying out on a plane Monday morning and leaving me here alone to rot and die.
Blah blah blah.
I just wish he'd shut up and leave me alone.
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Originally Posted by pinkpeony 
I breathed a huge sigh of relief then he came back in and said he's staying here tonight.
Next time, tell him how upset you'll be if he leaves. That might get him actually OUT the door.
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pink,
I'm one of the community greeters over at FFSA. I'm really sorry that this has happened. But I'm also acutely aware that someone under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol is capable of saying some truly horrendous things.
There is a sticky note on the FFA and FFSA homepages that Ann posted a while back that may be of interest to you. I've pasted it here: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...out-abuse.html
My thoughts? Simple, actually; you're under no obligation to take this kind of abuse. I would remove yourself from that situation. The only thing that matters right now should be your safety.
Keep us posted.
I'm one of the community greeters over at FFSA. I'm really sorry that this has happened. But I'm also acutely aware that someone under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol is capable of saying some truly horrendous things.
There is a sticky note on the FFA and FFSA homepages that Ann posted a while back that may be of interest to you. I've pasted it here: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...out-abuse.html
My thoughts? Simple, actually; you're under no obligation to take this kind of abuse. I would remove yourself from that situation. The only thing that matters right now should be your safety.
Keep us posted.
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Thanks Zoso. I will read those.
I would leave if I were able to do so, believe me.
My car is not working and I live out in the country. Just stuck here. I don't have anyone to come get me either.
I actually told him a few minutes ago that what he is doing is verbal abuse and if he didn't stop, I was going to call the Police.
Hopefully that will stop him for the rest of the night.
I would leave if I were able to do so, believe me.
My car is not working and I live out in the country. Just stuck here. I don't have anyone to come get me either.
I actually told him a few minutes ago that what he is doing is verbal abuse and if he didn't stop, I was going to call the Police.
Hopefully that will stop him for the rest of the night.
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OK.
I encourage you to check out the DV hotline. They deal with situations like this all the time and can probably direct you on how to proceed.
That said, if you feel in any way you're at risk, call 911. Don't wait.
Be safe.
I encourage you to check out the DV hotline. They deal with situations like this all the time and can probably direct you on how to proceed.
That said, if you feel in any way you're at risk, call 911. Don't wait.
Be safe.
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Well hopefully this night goes "okay"... But I do hope this is a wake up call for you to get a safety net in order. My heart goes out to you. I was once "trapped" as well. I slowly put my things in bags and boxes over the course of a few months. Told him I was just "organizing". The moment he left where I knee he would be gone a few hours, I high-tailed it out of there and got a restraining order.
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