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Old 01-26-2015, 12:28 AM
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Let the court handle it not u and him. Good luck with a new start
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Old 01-26-2015, 01:42 AM
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Hi lizatola,
I'm in a somewhat similar spot with my Ah. One place I found excellent free legal advice was by googling attorneys in my area. Many will meet with you once for a free consultation. The one I went to even suggested effective mediators in our area. You may be able to find both by checking yelp. Good luck, and good for you for taking steps forward.
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Old 01-26-2015, 01:57 AM
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AH is back to thinking he wants to keep this house. Oh, for petes sake.
It amuses him to see you dance around every time he changes the rules.
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Old 01-26-2015, 06:52 AM
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Time to play some hard ball Liz.

He keeps jerking your chain, and you are still way too tempted to jump.

S#@%^ him and the poor horse he rode in on.
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Old 01-26-2015, 07:03 AM
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It amuses him to see you dance around every time he changes the rules.
Probably. And, that's why I think I'm the one who needs to move out first. If I'm not sitting on the couch next to him, I'm not as easy a target. Emails and text messages and phone calls are easier to ignore or can be addressed another day.

As others have said, I'm taking a HUGE risk by leaving first. He has control of the purse strings and our house is the only asset that has my name on it. I have a lot of things to do today: call a new mediator that was referred to me over the weekend. Call my lawyer and try to get some answers out of her without her demanding her fee or find a new lawyer for a consult at some point this week. Set up another bank account in my name with a local bank (I have one already but it's an online bank and I want something local, too). Box up some belongings, etc, etc....the list goes on.

We, again, discussed last night the idea of a lump sum payout for spousal support. He understands that child support will have to be paid monthly and cannot be paid in a lump sum.

My son is ready to move out. He seems baffled by how an alcoholic can go on a binge until 6 AM, sleep all day, be hungover, and then go about the following day like a normal person and pretend that nothing was wrong with their behavior. I think he's had enough of dad and it's time I stepped up to protect him even if it means I have to raid my retirement monies.
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Old 01-26-2015, 07:13 AM
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Liz, I think this last post all sounds very wise. I have no further advise, just wanting you to know I am here, reading this, cheering you on. One step at a time my friend!

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