What is happening!?
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What is happening!?
So I finally left my exabf 5 weeks ago, it was painful and difficult but I`m incredibly proud of myself for realising I deserve better. As the days go by I miss him less and begin to think more rationally about all that was wrong with the relationship.
Over the last month my exabf contacted my numerously (threats/abuse and then saying he loves me!), I blocked him on all social media and thankfully he does not know where I currently live. Interestingly 2 weeks ago his mother called saying she has not heard from him in 3 weeks, I apologised and said I`m sorry we are no longer together so I really don`t know. After this he acted on the first threat he gave, I informated the appropriate authorities and thankfully the damage is minimal, I just have to place measures to prevent the others.
Yesterday I went with a police escort to collect the rest of my belongings. It was bizarre. He had let himself go further and the flat was filled with a mixture of alcohol/puke/mould- certainly was not like this when I lived there- I couldn`t even retrieve all my things as they were all thrown on the floor with everything nasty on top! I found it interesting how he was so humble with the police around- this was not the guy who I knew.
All he had to say was don`t contact my mother even though I have not contacted her (it was her who rang me) and I did not inform her of why we broke up! I feel as though his mother enables his behaviour and just an “im sorry but theres nothing I can do for you” was sufficient and polite.
Anyways I guess I`m posting to vent, kind of confused with whats happening to him although I acknowledge it is none of my business anymore, and I guess annoyed at myself with getting involved with somebody so troubled.
Over the last month my exabf contacted my numerously (threats/abuse and then saying he loves me!), I blocked him on all social media and thankfully he does not know where I currently live. Interestingly 2 weeks ago his mother called saying she has not heard from him in 3 weeks, I apologised and said I`m sorry we are no longer together so I really don`t know. After this he acted on the first threat he gave, I informated the appropriate authorities and thankfully the damage is minimal, I just have to place measures to prevent the others.
Yesterday I went with a police escort to collect the rest of my belongings. It was bizarre. He had let himself go further and the flat was filled with a mixture of alcohol/puke/mould- certainly was not like this when I lived there- I couldn`t even retrieve all my things as they were all thrown on the floor with everything nasty on top! I found it interesting how he was so humble with the police around- this was not the guy who I knew.
All he had to say was don`t contact my mother even though I have not contacted her (it was her who rang me) and I did not inform her of why we broke up! I feel as though his mother enables his behaviour and just an “im sorry but theres nothing I can do for you” was sufficient and polite.
Anyways I guess I`m posting to vent, kind of confused with whats happening to him although I acknowledge it is none of my business anymore, and I guess annoyed at myself with getting involved with somebody so troubled.
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Yep.... BE PROUD! It's only been a few weeks for me. Looking forward to gaining more confidence as I put together more things that were wrong with the relationship. Wouldn't it be great if we could have seen all of it as dysfunction the moment it happened? I'd like to be there someday.
Keep on going! You have strength and resolve.
Keep on going! You have strength and resolve.
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