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Update
Hello friends... it's been a long time since I've posted, though I do come back from time to time to check in on you all. I was encouraged to post an update (thanks for asking Hopeful) so here I am.
It's been nearly 5 months since my wife died, and it's been an interesting journey. The Fall was pretty much a blur, as our family's only mission was to get through the Holidays. We did, and now I am learning to live a new chapter in life. I still cry a little bit nearly every day as I see a picture of her, hear a particular song, etc, but it is much less paralyzing now- thanks to alot of grief and other counseling sessions. The kids are doing OK, but we haven't had the 'real' tests yet- mom's birthday, Mother's Day in particular. But, much like all the Holiday events, we'll get through it. I still worry alot about the kids, but all I can control is being the best dad I can be for them. They will deal with this in their own ways.
Despite the lingering pain- which I know will always be there- I think we are doing well. We all seem to embrace life more, appreciate the little things, look for the positives more... that's all good. Perhaps it's because the gargantuan weight of the A disease has been lifted off of us- the constant worry, the constant anger, the constant lying, deceit, denial, etc, etc., that we're learning how to live, love and enjoy again. I've actually gone a few dates! a little scary after 27 years with one person, but it has actually been helpful in my healing, to experience the nervous excitement of meeting someone for the first time and all that comes with that. I know my wife would want the kids and I to be happy, so that's what we're trying to do
Love and peace to you all. I'll see you 'round the forum from time to time.
Woodman
It's been nearly 5 months since my wife died, and it's been an interesting journey. The Fall was pretty much a blur, as our family's only mission was to get through the Holidays. We did, and now I am learning to live a new chapter in life. I still cry a little bit nearly every day as I see a picture of her, hear a particular song, etc, but it is much less paralyzing now- thanks to alot of grief and other counseling sessions. The kids are doing OK, but we haven't had the 'real' tests yet- mom's birthday, Mother's Day in particular. But, much like all the Holiday events, we'll get through it. I still worry alot about the kids, but all I can control is being the best dad I can be for them. They will deal with this in their own ways.
Despite the lingering pain- which I know will always be there- I think we are doing well. We all seem to embrace life more, appreciate the little things, look for the positives more... that's all good. Perhaps it's because the gargantuan weight of the A disease has been lifted off of us- the constant worry, the constant anger, the constant lying, deceit, denial, etc, etc., that we're learning how to live, love and enjoy again. I've actually gone a few dates! a little scary after 27 years with one person, but it has actually been helpful in my healing, to experience the nervous excitement of meeting someone for the first time and all that comes with that. I know my wife would want the kids and I to be happy, so that's what we're trying to do
Love and peace to you all. I'll see you 'round the forum from time to time.
Woodman
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Hi, Woodman! Pleased to get y our update, as always! I frequently think about you and your journey.
I know that this spring will be a challenge for your family.
You all are close and it will be a blessing that, at least, you will have each other to hold on to.
I do think it gets easier after that first year's series of holidays.
You are in my heart, Woodman.
Thanks.
dandylion
I know that this spring will be a challenge for your family.
You all are close and it will be a blessing that, at least, you will have each other to hold on to.
I do think it gets easier after that first year's series of holidays.
You are in my heart, Woodman.
Thanks.
dandylion
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Join Date: Mar 2014
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It's wonderful to hear from you. Thanks for the update. I'm happy to know that you and your family are moving forward.
Continued prayers for you all.
Continued prayers for you all.
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