In desperate need of encouragement.
See, I've spent some time reflecting on this, and though I may dispute some aspects of what was/wasn't real in our relationship, I know that the love was real. IS real. Unfortunately, it's just not enough.
I could honestly see the self-hatred for the things he did to hurt me. Caught him crying to himself on more than one occasion. I even think he believed he would beat his addiction in earnest one moment, just to succumb to it a moment later. It doesn't make sense to rational people, but I can tell you with certainty that he felt empathy, regret, shame, and intense love. It was the kind of thing that couldn't be one-sided or fabricated and be that.....pure. AT TIMES. Granted, it was unpredictable, scary, and soul-crushing, but it was real.
I could honestly see the self-hatred for the things he did to hurt me. Caught him crying to himself on more than one occasion. I even think he believed he would beat his addiction in earnest one moment, just to succumb to it a moment later. It doesn't make sense to rational people, but I can tell you with certainty that he felt empathy, regret, shame, and intense love. It was the kind of thing that couldn't be one-sided or fabricated and be that.....pure. AT TIMES. Granted, it was unpredictable, scary, and soul-crushing, but it was real.
So as you realized, far quicker than I did, love just wasn't enough.
ny fellow recovering addicts out there? Specifically those with IV drug addiction? I ask because I've been really struggling today, obviously, and I've been having to reign in my own demons. I am 5 years clean, aside from drugs used during hysterectomy last year and a bowel surgery this year (didn't abuse the meds...) But there's something about feeling emotional pain, that's closely tied to physical pain, that's usually the precursor to feeling euphoria and numbness. Let's face it, it's been a tough day and my brain, though in recovery, is still a sick brain. I was just wondering if anyone else struggles with emotional pain and translating it into a trigger via physical pain/the ritual.
A big hug......I promise this will pass. Eventually you'll be grateful this guy leveled with you instead of stringing you along with promises to get help.
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