Dojang

Haven't been on here much, but I do still read posts when I have time. I just wanted to update what's been going on and hopefully help those that are still struggling. I broke up with ABF almost 4 months ago. I went into a depression after, but went to counseling & al anon. I worked really hard on myself & continue to. Finally, the depression has lifted and I'm happy!! He continues to want to get back together, but I will not go back. We work in the same building, so no contact isn't possible. He is still drinking. But his drinking no longer consumes me. I spend time with my friends & family, work out & really am enjoying life. Several people have commented on how happy & relaxed I look now. I didn't realize how much of a toll he took on me. I was so depressed I didn't think I would ever recover. It really scared me. Not only did I recover, I'm happier than I have been in a long time. I have learned so much about myself & know I will never end up in that type of relationship again. To all of you struggling with a recent break up, it is possible to heal, move on and be happy. Please, stay strong & work on yourself. You deserve better. I was so caught up in him I didn't know where he ended & I began. All of that is behind me now. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. And it's worth fighting for yourself to get there.

Hangnbyathread

Good girl!!!!!

Katchie

WOW! What an awesome and inspiring post, thank you! Many blessings to you in this new year :-)

XanderCruz

That makes me feel a lot better, knowing that there is hope. I recently broke up with my ABF, and I feel that I am still learning where to sever the ties between where he ends and I begin.

Thank you for the inspirational message.

LemonGirl

Oh that is so inspiring! I am in the process of breaking up with him. I am foolishly still caught in texting and saying "I love you". We haven't had any horrible breaking point. I have just realized that this isn't what I want is all, even though this man has my heart. I am so glad to hear that others are proving that there is a better life waiting and that I can get there too! YAY! Good for you! Thanx for this post!

Slothy

Oh so thankful for your post. Going through a no contact separation from my exabf very soon! I am so happy for your happiness and peace! And I look forward to the same in time. Thanks again!

Pia

His drinking no longer consumes me.

How happy this makes me to read. Sending you a virtual hug!!!!

HollyC88

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS POST!!!

I am so thankful that there is hope and new beginnings. I can't wait for the day when there is no worries on my mind.

Looking forward to brighter days