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Welcome Holly! 
I am SO thankful you did not move in with this A! Your family must be on their KNEES in thankfulness!
Your A is right, you'd try controlling his drinking and it would have been a little home full of strife and resentment.
Personally I'm not into Al Anon meetings. I go sporadically, I have a sponsor who I am working the steps with, but like you I prefer more of a conversation. Try a few meetings if you can. If you can, try therapy. I found that exceedingly helpful. But the focus pretty quickly was on ME. I also hang here on SR. I also looked at MY life and started doing things for ME.
Oh, worrying about him.
Well I carried the Serenity Prayer with me on paper, even though I've memorized it years ago. Every time I was getting overly anxious over the drama, I'd stop and read that prayer. My old tag line which I stole from here helped me a ton too - Worrying is like praying for what you don't want.
I am SO thankful you did not move in with this A! Your family must be on their KNEES in thankfulness!
Your A is right, you'd try controlling his drinking and it would have been a little home full of strife and resentment.
Personally I'm not into Al Anon meetings. I go sporadically, I have a sponsor who I am working the steps with, but like you I prefer more of a conversation. Try a few meetings if you can. If you can, try therapy. I found that exceedingly helpful. But the focus pretty quickly was on ME. I also hang here on SR. I also looked at MY life and started doing things for ME.
Oh, worrying about him.
Well I carried the Serenity Prayer with me on paper, even though I've memorized it years ago. Every time I was getting overly anxious over the drama, I'd stop and read that prayer. My old tag line which I stole from here helped me a ton too - Worrying is like praying for what you don't want.
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Just wanted to give everyone a little update...
Went out with friends for the first time last night since the break up. Went to a bar to watch football... Felt like a huge relief not counting my EXABF's beers, not babysitting him, making sure he was not embarrassing me, and lastly getting him safely home.
Feel a little sad today, but that is expected in any break up.
Great to feel a little freedom and relief though last night
Went out with friends for the first time last night since the break up. Went to a bar to watch football... Felt like a huge relief not counting my EXABF's beers, not babysitting him, making sure he was not embarrassing me, and lastly getting him safely home.
Feel a little sad today, but that is expected in any break up.
Great to feel a little freedom and relief though last night
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