Stung

Thanks for all of the kind words everyone.

My husband relapsed again. Sunday morning he smelled bad. I tried to let it slide since everything was so nice. Then Monday night he was acting really weird on the phone. Tonight I flat out called him on it. He's driving around drunk. I called the police and the CHP are now on alert to look for him.

*I warned him FYI that I was calling CHP so he better get his very selfish ass off the roads ASAP. What he is doing is EXTREMELY dangerous and he could easily take our daughter's father away or kill other people.

Very stupid man.

And he's not owning up to the drinking. In fact, last night he told me that he was going to chair his first meeting tonight and then he called me afterwards and now he's telling me that it's his anti-anxiety meds that are making him act weird. Damn. I'm too tired for this crap.

Stung

My diagnosis is viral meningitis, but the specialist I'm seeing thinks something else chronic is going on too. We'll see how I'm looking and feeling at my follow up appointment.

suki44883

Addicts do stupid things. I am glad you called the police. It just might save someone's life. ((((HUGS))))

amy55

Stung, I also called the cops on my ex, and told them the routes he would probably take, and his license plate number and description of the car. I told him about it also, he didn't get stopped that night, most likely because he pulled off the road and slept his drunk off.

I'm so sorry this happened.

and please keep us informed as to how you are doing.

((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))
amy

redatlanta

I'm so sorry Stung.

Lord it seems ridiculous to say this but try and take care of yourself. You have done an amazing job. I have noticed when my mom goes through stressors that her illness can get worse - I'm actually convinced that is why she became full blown cancer (her type cancer has a period in which its there but not active).

I sure am glad its meningitis and not Leukemia.

Hoping its nothing chronic!

FeelingGreat

Sorry Stung, not what you need for Christmas. Hope it's a restful day tomorrow anyway.

MissFixit

Hi

Try not to be surprised by the relapse or the denial. He is just doing what A's do. I am sorry.

Stung

I want him to tell me what he is doing. I want him to tell me the truth because being lied to about relapsing is worse than the relapsing. He's still supposedly taking naltrexone too. I keep reminding myself that he doesn't live here, he isn't drinking here, this doesn't really effect me but gah! I WANT TO KNOW!! It's like he hit 30 days again, had a super dad caliber week and then "celebrated" by doing something so terrible to himself. He's going to get kicked out of his house. I made him take a selfie in his kitchen last night to prove he was there since I inagine its a very short time before they kick him out. Unless he's actually NOT drinking and he's doing something else now. My imagination is in overdrive. I'm sad that he made me feel loved and supported and now that time is gone.

Pity party over.

It's Christmas Eve!! I have two little girls who are really excited about Santa coming tonight!! Time for a good attitude and time for fun!

hopeful4

Oh Stung, I am so sorry. Addiction just sucks, there is no getting around it.

I hope you get some rest and some peace.

Catherine628

Sorry for all you are going through. I hope Santa is extra good to your family this year.

I know what you mean about the lying. I hate the dishonesty and it seems to be a cornerstone of addiction.

FireSprite

(((((((Stung)))))))) I'm so happy you were able to get some relief so that you can be home enjoying this holiday with your babies.

I'm so, so sorry for everything else that you are dealing with & I know from experience that no words are going to make it *all better*or provide any magic answer. You know all the yada-yada at this point. My Worst-Christmas-Ever happened about 4 yrs ago when RAH was on such a magnificent bender that it sucked all the joy out the day & all of it's events for me. I'm finding it to be a super-sensitive trigger this year, feeling that rock of resentment related to it anchored deep inside of me, needing to be worked through.

I hope your girls are giddy with excitement all day long & distract you from all of this heaviness with their overexcited toddler selves. I'm sure they have yummy allergy-friendly treats to leave out for Santa! We made some awesome stuff ourselves this year, tried some new recipes. We are spending the day watching holiday shows - some classics (Frosty, Rudolph, Christmas Story) mixed with some new favorites (Smurfs, Fraggles ). We will watch Elf at least one more time so that we can LOL at it's ridiculousness & I've got Chevy Chase's NL Xmas & Steve Martin's Mixed Nuts to enjoy later tonight........ after we drive around looking at the holiday light shows some of the local houses are displaying & delivering cookies to friends. It's hot as freaking Hades in S FL this week so it'll be ice cream sundaes instead of hot chocolate tonight!

MissFixit

I know. Those are perfectly normal desires. As you know, part of the deal with addiction is lying. Denial = end result of lying. It stinks to be around and will drive you crazy.

One of the consequences of being the child of a mentally unstable parent is the inconsistency. Highs and lows. Perfect parent and completely negligent parent. They can be awesome at times, but it never lasts. Growing up with the inconsistency of never knowing what to expect from a parent can create its own set of issues for kids (I know well) leading well into adulthood.

At least you are aware and have the tools to deal with this really hard stuff.



Merry Christmas!

lillamy

(((((hugs)))))

I'm sorry. I hope you're having a wonderful Christmas Eve with your kids and that you can keep your focus on that.