First Step
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First Step
Hi, my name is Sadie, and i am engaged to an alcoholic.
I found this website today while searching for a way to get through this.
It has gotten to the stage now where i wake up daily and the emotions hit me, knowing he has hidden bottles and lied to me, (the stupid thing is i go looking for them and 50% of the time i find them or a receipt proving my suspicions) and knowing its going to happen again when i go to work, knowing its pointless to challenge him about it, as many times in the past this has happened, and he always says he will change but its never stuck.
I am going to book an appointment to see my GP and try to arrange counselling because i cannot take this much more.
I am reaching out because i cannot go through this alone anymore.
I need help.
I found this website today while searching for a way to get through this.
It has gotten to the stage now where i wake up daily and the emotions hit me, knowing he has hidden bottles and lied to me, (the stupid thing is i go looking for them and 50% of the time i find them or a receipt proving my suspicions) and knowing its going to happen again when i go to work, knowing its pointless to challenge him about it, as many times in the past this has happened, and he always says he will change but its never stuck.
I am going to book an appointment to see my GP and try to arrange counselling because i cannot take this much more.
I am reaching out because i cannot go through this alone anymore.
I need help.
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Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 322
Hi Sadie - I'm sorry for what you're dealing with. I recently left my alcoholic fiance because of the same things you're going through. I lived a life of broken promises and couldn't take anymore. I could only imagine how much worse it would have gotten had I gone through with the marriage. Leaving him was heartbreaking, however, continuing to live with someone who lied to me, hid things from me (his drinking) and emotionally checked out more than not because he was drunk was too much for me. That wasn't what I wanted. I'd been in the relationship long enough and tried hard enough for so long that I finally realized there wasn't a thing I could do to change him. I didn't want to leave him, but I had no choice. It's hard and it hurts, but things are getting better by the day.
Keep posting, it helps to get it out. You're definitely not alone here. There are tons of supportive people who've been exactly where we are and can give you great advice.
Hang in there and hugs.
Keep posting, it helps to get it out. You're definitely not alone here. There are tons of supportive people who've been exactly where we are and can give you great advice.
Hang in there and hugs.
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Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: South Central USA
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Hi Sadie...I'm glad you found SR and you're right, you don't have to go through this alone. I hope you will build a big support circle for yourself to take care of you. Big hugs...you're going to be ok!
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: hot as heck, az
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Hi sadie~
Sorry you are going through this, but as others have stated, you are not alone. I used to think I needed to find the "evidence", but later I realized that no matter what I found, it was just painful and didn't change anything.
Sorry you are going through this, but as others have stated, you are not alone. I used to think I needed to find the "evidence", but later I realized that no matter what I found, it was just painful and didn't change anything.
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