Treatment "rules"
Isolation is a form of abuse. Don't forget that. You tell whomever you want, you need a face to face support system.
When I opened up about my X's alcoholism, something clicked in me and I gained a support system that was wonderful.
DO NOT ISOLATE!
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When I opened up about my X's alcoholism, something clicked in me and I gained a support system that was wonderful.
DO NOT ISOLATE!
XXX
What is your game plan if he comes back and drinks again? (or when he does... he's going into this thing kicking and screaming). Will you have access to his normal paycheck while he is gone? What about when he comes back and there's still no money because he's spending it all on booze (like he is now)?
What is your game plan if he comes back and drinks again? (or when he does... he's going into this thing kicking and screaming). Will you have access to his normal paycheck while he is gone? What about when he comes back and there's still no money because he's spending it all on booze (like he is now)?
I am resentful because I had hoped to take the time he was gone and really focus on me, and yes I can still do that, I just really didn't want to have to worry so much about the money aspect.
I'm sure he will pawn his tools tonight. So that will be just great. They are Milwaukee tools and VERY expensive. He will probably pawn for 75$ and then I will be the one who has to figure out how to get them out. They are valued at over 400$...so I DO NOT want to lose them. I bought them for him as a gift. So technically they are his, maybe I just shouldn't worry about it. But I do use them ....
I've used the vinegar on pet smells, it does work. I don't know how long to soak the pants for. Try a half hour. Also heard vinegar is good for washing new clothes, like the red ones that tend to fade. It's supposed to help keep the color longer.
I'm going to go soak them now. Thanks for this info.
Re the pants, have you checked Goodwill? I often buy jeans for myself there. Kids' clothes are often VERY inexpensive, and at least he'd have unripped pants.
Hugs,
Hugs,
this poor kiddo, he's 9 and he still wets himself (dribbles) and the pants that aren't ripped have this urine smell that no matter what I wash them with or how many times, I cannot get the smell out. He also wets the bed at night. ALOT (quantity wise) I've tried waking him up and all sorts of stuff. Doc said he will grow out of it...he is embarrassed by it. I feel bad for him
freetosmile....I understand...remember my experience with medical school and 3 k ids? LOL!
Pritorize. Say "screw it" to every single thing except for making sure the kids are safe and fed until after finals are over on friday. The finals are pertinent to your future goals.
This is how I got through periods of extreme pressure...the only way...
I will mention this because it sometimes crept up on me: Is there any PMS going on? LOL! don't laugh...it is a valid question.
Ignore your husband....at least until after finals on Friday night. He will live until then.
When he is gone to rehab..see you sister as much as you want. Tell her you are studying until after friday....
Please do not isolate yourself from anyone.....
And, don't slack on your goals because of him.....Your goals are important because your kids are going to depend on YOU.
Just a few words from someone who has been in your pressured shoes.
dandylion
Pritorize. Say "screw it" to every single thing except for making sure the kids are safe and fed until after finals are over on friday. The finals are pertinent to your future goals.
This is how I got through periods of extreme pressure...the only way...
I will mention this because it sometimes crept up on me: Is there any PMS going on? LOL! don't laugh...it is a valid question.
Ignore your husband....at least until after finals on Friday night. He will live until then.
When he is gone to rehab..see you sister as much as you want. Tell her you are studying until after friday....
Please do not isolate yourself from anyone.....
And, don't slack on your goals because of him.....Your goals are important because your kids are going to depend on YOU.
Just a few words from someone who has been in your pressured shoes.
dandylion
Do you think your son's problem is related to your husbands drinking?
I by no means am a doctor or a psychologist, but if the condition is serious (and he does seem a little older) could they be related? or it maybe it's something medical. Have you guys seen a doctor?
Just putting that out there, that must be horrible for him.
I by no means am a doctor or a psychologist, but if the condition is serious (and he does seem a little older) could they be related? or it maybe it's something medical. Have you guys seen a doctor?
Just putting that out there, that must be horrible for him.
DS had a rough time with accidents, too. He's pretty much grown out of it now. I'd throw his sheets and underwear in the wash with probably about a cup of vinegar, maybe ? (I just poured it into the bleach section of the washer), and washed like normal, and rinsed twice. It usually came out smelling OK. If I'd gotten behind with the wash and it had had to sit for a bit, I'd run it through the same but with vinegar in the 1st rinse, too.
freetosmile....I understand...remember my experience with medical school and 3 k ids? LOL!
Pritorize. Say "screw it" to every single thing except for making sure the kids are safe and fed until after finals are over on friday. The finals are pertinent to your future goals.
This is how I got through periods of extreme pressure...the only way...
I will mention this because it sometimes crept up on me: Is there any PMS going on? LOL! don't laugh...it is a valid question.
Ignore your husband....at least until after finals on Friday night. He will live until then.
When he is gone to rehab..see you sister as much as you want. Tell her you are studying until after friday....
Please do not isolate yourself from anyone.....
And, don't slack on your goals because of him.....Your goals are important because your kids are going to depend on YOU.
Just a few words from someone who has been in your pressured shoes.
dandylion
Pritorize. Say "screw it" to every single thing except for making sure the kids are safe and fed until after finals are over on friday. The finals are pertinent to your future goals.
This is how I got through periods of extreme pressure...the only way...
I will mention this because it sometimes crept up on me: Is there any PMS going on? LOL! don't laugh...it is a valid question.
Ignore your husband....at least until after finals on Friday night. He will live until then.
When he is gone to rehab..see you sister as much as you want. Tell her you are studying until after friday....
Please do not isolate yourself from anyone.....
And, don't slack on your goals because of him.....Your goals are important because your kids are going to depend on YOU.
Just a few words from someone who has been in your pressured shoes.
dandylion
Do you think your son's problem is related to your husbands drinking?
I by no means am a doctor or a psychologist, but if the condition is serious (and he does seem a little older) could they be related? or it maybe it's something medical. Have you guys seen a doctor?
Just putting that out there, that must be horrible for him.
I by no means am a doctor or a psychologist, but if the condition is serious (and he does seem a little older) could they be related? or it maybe it's something medical. Have you guys seen a doctor?
Just putting that out there, that must be horrible for him.
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this poor kiddo, he's 9 and he still wets himself (dribbles) and the pants that aren't ripped have this urine smell that no matter what I wash them with or how many times, I cannot get the smell out. He also wets the bed at night. ALOT (quantity wise) I've tried waking him up and all sorts of stuff. Doc said he will grow out of it...he is embarrassed by it. I feel bad for him
My son is now 11... but he also use to wet his bed up until he almost turned 10. It was so frustrating... especially when you have to change the sheets and PJ's in the middle of the night. His pediatrician suggested this pager that you attach to their underwear and if the slightest drop gets on it, the pager immediately buzzes and makes a loud sound to wake them up to use the restroom. After about 3 months of my son using this he was able to hold his pee all night or wake him self up. If you like, i can see if i still have mine and send it to you. I how how awful my son felt over this, so i know the pain your son is in.
Here is the link to the one i have ( i hope i can still find it!!! )
Malem Ultimate Bedwetting Alarm | Bedwetting Store
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