12stepwife

My AH has a 24 hour pass from rehab for Thanksgiving...I'm scared! He's been there about 7 weeks I think. I'm not scared he will drink and he's not abusive to me or anything like that. I'm just scared of who he's going to be, what his expectations are of me etc. I haven't slept with him in 6 months because of his drinking. He hasn't wanted any intimacy for a very long time. I want to enjoy or time together but wonder if this is the time for us to really talk about things an if we do its not going to be so enjoyable. Do I just pretend everything is normal? Do I walk on egg shells? I don't want to do anything that me interfere in his recovery.

Soberintexas007

I would suggest avoiding discussing any major issues and just try to have a fun, lighthearted time with him. You can discuss the major issues later when he has more recovery.

CodeJob

Well if you invoke the Three C's that frees you up to think what do YOU want out of this visit?