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lizatola 11-17-2014 08:32 PM

Stress and shingles, UGH!
 
So, today I was diagnosed with shingles. I have heard so many people getting shingles these days, people in my age group (under 50). Crazy, but oh well. I am debating over taking the antivirals because meds really mess with my and with my liver. I am trying some natural antivirals and I've now realized how much the stress in my life is adding up and affecting me physically.

On a more positive note, I did get rid of my car and bought a Toyota Venza. Paid more than I wanted to, though, but I told AH that I would take on the payments when we split everything up in the end.

He's still sticking with his 'proposal': let's stay married for financial benefits and maybe if you (Liz) start working soon, then I(AH) can get out of paying spousal support in 2 years. Oh, and go ahead and start dating dear, we're just tied to each other on paper. GAH!!!!! And, I now don't need to wonder why I have a rash next to my boob, LOL!

dandylion 11-17-2014 09:02 PM

Liz....my gut reaction to his "dating" proposal is one of suspicion. Just be careful.
Sounds, to me, like he is already up to something, himself...or....trying to lure you into an infidelity situation to get a leg up should you all divorce.

Just a gut reaction....

You didn't mention pain...are you have any...much?

dandylion

Stung 11-17-2014 09:23 PM

Good thing you're not actually listening to any of his nonsense!

And congrats on your new wheels! :)

SeriousKarma 11-17-2014 09:37 PM

Sounds like you just traded one rashy boob for another. This one, however, will be gone in a week, and won't make ridiculous proposals. :)

lizatola 11-17-2014 09:59 PM


Originally Posted by SeriousKarma (Post 5024228)
Sounds like you just traded one rashy boob for another. This one, however, will be gone in a week, and won't make ridiculous proposals. :)

Bwwahhhaaa!! I needed that laugh!

Dandylion: No pain yet, just a few sores on my right side and I'm feeling a bit run down. As for his proposal, yeah, I thought of all of that. Wouldn't that be convenient for me to start dating someone and he uses it against me in the divorce? But you know what, we live in a no fault divorce state and I'm going to ask that he put his 'proposal' in writing so that I can have it all on file for the future.

WMJ1012 11-18-2014 05:35 AM

When I stop taking on what isn't mine
Or accept things I cannot change
My stress decreases

MissFixit 11-18-2014 06:04 AM

I didn't know you could get shingles in your 40's. Yikes!

Florence 11-18-2014 06:51 AM

Take the meds. I've seen shingles up close. Just take the medical, chemical, don't know what's in 'em meds.


Sounds like you just traded one rashy boob for another. This one, however, will be gone in a week, and won't make ridiculous proposals.
:D :D :D

FeelingGreat 11-18-2014 07:13 AM

Liza shingles is my new obsession because my DIL of 30 got them, and was in really bad pain for a couple of weeks, then my EXH got them as well. He's over 60 but in good health. When DIL got them, naturally I googled and found out there is a vaccine. It's expensive in Australia, around $200, but it would save some serious pain, and debilitating symptoms, especially in the elderly. Yet doctors hardly seem aware the vaccine exists.

Sorry to go on about it, but your post reminded me again of how preventable it is if you can afford the vaccine.

Sorry about the rash, and I agree with Flo that you should consider the anti-virals if your doc recommends them, because I've heard the pain can be excruciating.

Watch out for the dating thing; I would imagine it's more for his benefit than yours. Fancy seeing his new GF first thing when you go to make a cup of coffee?

Wisconsin 11-18-2014 07:37 AM

Oh Liz, I am so, so sorry about the shingles. Wishing you relief soon!

Those Venzas are slick-looking! I'm glad you were able to get the car situation taken care of. I know it was stressing you out a lot.

lillamy 11-18-2014 07:50 AM

I'm sorry. I second Florence, though. Take the damn meds. We had shingles going through my office two years ago, and people who were never sick were wicked, wicked sick. I hope your case is an easy one, but I would not take any chances.

I think they're going to have to change the guidelines for vaccinations for shingles. Right now, I don't know of a single insurance company that pays for it for people under 50 (and it's expensive). We had one guy who was out for a month, and he was 43.

I'm glad you got the car thing figured out. And I still think your AH doesn't believe the divorce is going to happen. As long as you stay married, he can always move back in...

hopeful4 11-18-2014 07:58 AM

Ugh....when I broke my leg I also came down with shingles. Miserable.

Stay well my friend!

WMJ1012 11-18-2014 07:59 AM

BTW, we should all be getting shingles vaccinations.
They are available today.
I just put it on my list of things I ask about at my next Drs appt

WMJ1012 11-18-2014 08:00 AM

BTW, we should all be getting shingles vaccinations.
They are available today.
I just put it on my list of things I ask about at my next Drs appt

lizatola 11-18-2014 08:23 AM


Originally Posted by WMJ1012 (Post 5024962)
BTW, we should all be getting shingles vaccinations.
They are available today.
I just put it on my list of things I ask about at my next Drs appt

Insurance won't cover it unless you are over 50, I think.

I know people who had it recently who are much younger than me. It almost seems as if it's epidemic and many of the folks I know who have had it are in their 30s and even 20s.

I am starting the antivirals today, rash just started yesterday and it's a 72 hour window on the meds. I'm not in pain.....yet, and I do hope I have a mild case. My chicken pox was awful when I was 16 so maybe I'm getting a break here, LOL?

biminiblue 11-18-2014 08:26 AM


Originally Posted by WMJ1012 (Post 5024962)
BTW, we should all be getting shingles vaccinations.
They are available today.
I just put it on my list of things I ask about at my next Drs appt

I had one this year - they are over $250. I've never had shingles, but I've known a few people who have - one of them in her twenties.

lizatola 11-18-2014 08:52 AM


Originally Posted by Wisconsin (Post 5024918)
Oh Liz, I am so, so sorry about the shingles. Wishing you relief soon!

Those Venzas are slick-looking! I'm glad you were able to get the car situation taken care of. I know it was stressing you out a lot.

I wasn't even looking at the Venza. I realized I needed an SUV because of all the gear we cart around to tournaments so I was looking at the RAV4 or the Honda Cr-V. The Toyota guy showed me the Venza and I was sold the minute I sat in it. I guess it's like a station wagon but it feels wide and sturdy on the road. It also only had 14K miles on it and didn't have a scratch on it. I plan to drive it until it dies, LOL! The only thing I wasn't sold on was the color, bright red (Toyota calls it Barcelona red) but it's growing on me and I'm not too shocked when I walk into the garage and see this bright red thing sitting there, haha!

hopeful4 11-18-2014 08:57 AM

I am 39 and got the shingles this year. My friend had them at 31. They had a baby at the time but did not catch it in time and the baby got the chicken pox from him. Bad times.

I will say mine were not horribly severe like some. I hope I never get them again!

dandylion 11-18-2014 09:11 AM

Red is a POWER color.....

dandylion

lizatola 11-18-2014 09:32 AM


Originally Posted by hopeful4 (Post 5025060)
I am 39 and got the shingles this year. My friend had them at 31. They had a baby at the time but did not catch it in time and the baby got the chicken pox from him. Bad times.

I will say mine were not horribly severe like some. I hope I never get them again!

Aww, poor little babe! I can't imagine. I think mine is starting to spread now so I'm holding my breath to see how bad it gets. I did start the antivirals, too. Did you take the meds, as well?


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