Rachinator

You're right Nuu. I can only help the ones who truly want the help. I know I need help. And I'm thankful that I found this site because people have going,gone,thinking about recovering from an addiction. It's just saddening to see the person you love, someone you've built a life with, and made a family with get beat by a disease. In the course of my sobriety I'm coming to the realization that I may be a widow in the next 5-10 years with what my husband is going through. And he seems oblivious to what is going on. And I'll I can do is support and love him and watch him go downhill if he so chooses. It's getting better on stomaching those thoughts. I know I'm not the only one who has gone through this and came out alright. It's just good to hear from others that it'll be ok if I take care of me and my daughter

Hawks

I think the best thing you can be is an example to him.

Stay sober and hope it rubs off.

If you are inclined to pray (I don't know if you are?)

The serenity prayer is a cracker for situations like this.