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wanttobehealthy 10-15-2014 08:36 PM

Sad-Funny Quack
 
XAH whose weight fluctuates wildly lately (I see him once a week at exchanges of the kids and he's become noticeably thin) no doubt a result of his addictions, sent me this quack text tonight...

I should preface this by explaining that I look like hell lately bc I've been sick w a cold for a week and look like death warmed over. I also am no longer skeletal as I was much of the last 2 years bc of stress. I'm 5'4 and about 110 lbs and xAH tells me regularly I am overweight.

Got this text about 10 min ago. It should come w a message that says "this message brought to you courtesy of whiskey"

"One of the things I used to value about u was ur physique and skin tone. Douse it occur to u to ever view urself in a mirror? U have let ursf go beyond repare and ur a poor model of what a woman looks like for ur daughters. Ick. No man will ever want u. Alone. And Ebola will get u all because u have no concern for hygiene. I will seek legal help to protect my daughters..."

suki44883 10-15-2014 08:39 PM

Oh my!! That is really bizarre!

Ebola????

wanttobehealthy 10-15-2014 08:43 PM

Yeah I guess me having a cold means I am apt to get the Ebola virus that he apparently told the girls all about tonight during his time w them.

He's crazy paranoid about catching illnesses. Odd since he is slowly and willfully killing himself daily.

suki44883 10-15-2014 08:50 PM

As many times as you have posted and as many times as I have read your story, it just hit me that, minus the physical abuse, your husband is almost exactly like my ex. Such a narcissist and totally oblivious to how ridiculous he is. SO bizarre!!

jarp 10-15-2014 08:56 PM

Oh my gosh....that would be FUNNY if it weren't so....bizarre.....

wanttobehealthy 10-15-2014 09:03 PM


Originally Posted by suki44883 (Post 4957676)
As many times as you have posted and as many times as I have read your story, it just hit me that, minus the physical abuse, your husband is almost exactly like my ex. Such a narcissist and totally oblivious to how ridiculous he is. SO bizarre!!

Yeah narcissist is him to a 'T'. Poor us huh? :)

healthyagain 10-15-2014 09:11 PM

Someone should protect the world from his spelling...

And that is bizarre indeed. Mine got obsessed with Ebola! Had to leave this evening and give him a time out, and the rant was about Ebola! But I missed all the juicy details because I catapulted myself out.

Yeah, whiskey does that I guess.

Wisconsin 10-15-2014 09:12 PM

WTBH, as my AH has gotten sicker and sicker with his addiction, his quacking has also gotten more ridiculous and outrageous. And frankly, that has made it easier to detach because you read something like THAT and can do nothing but shake your head at the total insanity of it all.

((HUGS))

suki44883 10-15-2014 09:14 PM

Ironically, the other day, I was at the checkout counter of a store and this man came up to the cashier and said..."I was only joking with you." I couldn't see him because he was toward my back, but I recognized that voice. Shortly after, I turned around and saw my ex-husband walking out of the store. He looked bad. He had lost a lot of weight and it looked like his jeans were about 3 sizes too big and were being cinched to his waist by a belt. I only saw a brief profile as he walked out the door, but he looked like he had aged a LOT.

The cashier (a black girl...my ex is a terrible racist) said...he came all the way back here to say that to me. Dude is a psycho! I didn't dare tell her that he was my ex-husband. :tongue:

ladyscribbler 10-15-2014 09:16 PM

Someone should protect the world from his spelling...

LMAO. That was my first thought as well. Mine used to rant to the point where strangers (usually police and paramedics) would ask me about his mental health.

Ixi 10-15-2014 09:27 PM

True inner peace is reading something like that and resisting the urge to respond. I don't even KNOW him and I want to shake some sense into him!

wanttobehealthy 10-15-2014 09:27 PM

The world DOES need to be protected from his teenage text speak!

Funny thing is he likens himself to an intellectual. But when he's in crazy mode all grammar rules (and sanity rules) go out the window.

Suki- that sounds like an unpleasant experience. To hear a voice that you're not expecting and then to witness his craziness. The poor cashier. :(

Wisconsin- yes the crozier the texts the easier it is to be almost amused by them
vs upset. The fact that to perfect strangers his text sounds bizarre but to me it's pretty par for the course, gives me perspective on what "normal" became for me over time w him.

wanttobehealthy 10-15-2014 09:28 PM


Originally Posted by Ixi (Post 4957730)
True inner peace is reading something like that and resisting the urge to respond. I don't even KNOW him and I want to shake some sense into him!

I have NO desire to reply in any way. None. And that is a big change for me.

But I think it's fair to say I'm pretty far away from true inner peace :).

Ixi 10-15-2014 09:30 PM

:You_Rock_

suki44883 10-15-2014 09:34 PM

I emailed my daughter and told her. This was her response...

XDDDDD omg!!!!!!!!!!!! xDDDDDDD that's soooooo awkward!!!!!!!!!!! How did he look? I'm glad he's still alive.... making people feel uncomfortable XDDDDD

He is probably doing drugs :( He gets really delusional and i think he hallucinates, so he might have hallucinated something and talked to her about it and came off super weird. I don't blame you at all about making sure he'd be gone O_O So awkward....

wanttobehealthy 10-15-2014 09:41 PM

Suki-glad your daughter is able to react to her dad's bizarre behavior the same way I hope my girls will one day. I'm thinking my xAH is using drugs (which I have suspected for some time anyway) bc it's seems odd for someone to drop tons of weight almost overnight.

I like your daughters line about being glad he's still alive and making people uncomfortable. Same dry, witty humor as her mom. :). I like it.

BoxinRotz 10-15-2014 10:25 PM

And he sounds so mentally fit and capable of being a good role model to girls that he wishes you contract ebola?!!! Yeah... he sounds real stable for the upbringing of children. :skillet

KCrazy 10-16-2014 05:34 AM

wanttobehealthy - This made me sad, reminded me of so many similar insults I used to receive... Even though I knew they weren't true, they still hurt, and have contributed to low self esteem and lack of inner peace. I'm so sorry he said those things to you, especially, being the wonderful woman and mother I'm sure you are. It's heartbreaking to know they can be so cruel.

Florence 10-16-2014 06:22 AM


He's crazy paranoid about catching illnesses.
Red flag! This is a sign of NPD. My NPD ex used to refuse to poop at work, and would leave work and come home to poop. He lost SEVERAL jobs because he couldn't explain why he left work twice a day for no explicable reason. :D

Among other things.

HopefulinFLA 10-16-2014 07:13 AM

Thanks for making me chuckle! Bizarre, hilarious, and sad all at once.


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