Climbling out of the rabbit hole - again
 

So I gave him another chance and he was really good...for what??? Maybe 2 weeks (and I think I am being very generous with that estimation)

So last night after biting my leg until it almost broke the skin he was bossing me around and acting like a total vodka infused jerk (which he was). I told him I was not going to put up with this treatment that I was not his slave. He then decided to inform me that i was his wife and it was the same thing. Needless to say I am turning in the paperwork (I told him and he said for me to do whatever I want). I am going to try to make arrangements to do it tomorrow morning. Tonight I am going to get my things from his apartment.

Lately it's been all about how he is so depressed he is going to kill himself. Quack quack quack. He told me today that he was sorry about last night and at first I said it's ok. Then I went back and decided to say no it wasn't ok and I was really upset about the slave thing. He told me to stop being so emotional so i told him I was turning in the papers. I'm sure tonight it will be all I'm so sorry and I'm so depressed and I didn't mean it and of course he is going to kill himself.

Tough poop jerkface!!!! I'm done. I got his car fixed and that cost me 1000.00 that I don't have. He now has everything his pathetic little self needs to care for himself. Including the damn phone back that I am stuck paying for the next 2 years.


What do I do about this killing myself crap? Do I call the cops and let them deal with it. I really just want to get it over with...get away from him....again...and try like hell to be strong this time and stay gone.


Anyone else dealing with the suicide threat? Not sure what to do with it. I have no idea if he will really try it or not.


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Yes. Call the police.

1. He might be serious, and if he is he'll get the help he needs.
2. If he isn't serious, he'll at least know you are. He will be hesitant to try that again.

Call the cops if he makes another suicide threat. If he is bluffing, he will hesitate before trying that tactic again. If he isn't, then you have put him in the hands of people far more capable of handling it then you.

I know what it feels like to want to rush to get out of a situation, but you have to try to not let that affect your judgment. You still need to make the best decisions for you in the long run, even if it entails some short-term discomfort.

Very sorry things went this way, Mischa, even if it isn't totally out of the blue.

So why take the chance - call 911

yes, call the cops. It will help put your mind at ease b/c you can never tell if they are serious or not.

My AH called the cops himself the last time he was drunk b/c he was mad at his friend. Well once he started saying he was going to hurt himself he ended up going to the ER, transferred to another hospital for a psych eval. He was released the next day of course b/c he was sober and deemed not a threat, but he is now dealing with a $3000 bill as a result of that threat. talk about an eye opener for him. He hasn't threatened it since.

Sorry things didn't work out for you with AH.

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Mischa still trying to figure out why you didn't go through with the annulment. Based on your description of his previous behavior, this type of thing (not the biting your leg part...ew) seemed almost inevitable.

Can you take a $1000,00 worth of parts of his car?
You could sell them or get scrap value at least.

This is who he is and has been all along. Please believe him this time.
Isn't the car he has yours in the first place, that he "borrowed" and didn't give back? Call the cops if he threatens suicide, I'm with the others on that.

Actually his car is now in my name. So I can do whatever I want to with it.:c029:

What he did and what he continues to do to you is abuse.
It's OK to call it that. Because that's what it is.

Plus, isn't biting your leg considered an assault that is punishable by law?

I'm so sorry. That sounds like an awful experience/night.

You can also cancel the phone. You'll pay the same amount either way but if you cancel it will be done and over with it.

I'm through Verizon. I went in and said I would release his number off my contract. He had 30 days to go in there and move the phone over into a contract of his own or I would cancel it. I told him that by email. I'm not sure if it works the same with other providers.

If the car is in your name, then you might be liable for any damage he does with it. Whose name is on the insurance policy?

Good!!
If you don't need it flog it, pay the phone off and buy yourself something nice xx

I think that if he is biting your leg, you are both in very real danger.

Please take care of yourself.

You ask about calling the cops because he is threatening suicide.....

But it never occurred to you to call the cops when he bit your leg??

You need to get the hell out of there! I would be much more concerned about your safety then his at this point.

I see you called him out on calling you a slave , yet still nothing on the bite??

Huh?

Also, not sure what phone service you have, but I would really check into

seeing what you can do so you don't have to pay for him the next two years.

The carrier I have has the option to disable the number. If you still have to

pay out for him (which I don't recommend) I would deactivate his line/number.

Mischa1, why are you still with this person? I truly don't understand why you are still with him? Why are you allowing someone to mentally abuse and torture you, use you, and now physically BITE you? As I understand, you are the breadwinner, the car's in your name, you have been married a VERY short amount of time and if anything calls for an annulment I would say this one does. I really don't get it...

Hello Mischa,

Just checking in to see how you are doing today. Wishing you much peace and clarity and joy!

S