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Old 09-03-2014, 09:44 AM
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Question update

So, I'm feeling pretty good and pretty bad at the same time. I know confusing.

I took the above you all have given me and followed through.

I have contacted a therapist who works with codepency. I'm hoping she had an opening this Friday. Still waiting for her call back. Edited about getting this started.

I find a local al anon. It was last night so I missed it.

I was also directed to a cr group in the next town... by the therapist.

I'm excited about all these things and learning more about my own recovery.

But I'm nervous that when all this is said and done my focus will be on divorce. I don't know why I feel like this. I just do. Like some how that is my last desired out come and I have to prepare for the worst?
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Old 09-03-2014, 09:45 AM
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I would just take it a day at a time. Don't future trip, nothing good comes of that.

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Old 09-03-2014, 09:52 AM
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Worrying about how you're going to feel in the future and what it all means is not a good way to spend your time and energy. The fact is you don't know how you're going to feel or what it will mean, and whatever happens, you won't have to DO anything until you're ready. One day at a time, you're doing good. It's scary, but it is okay.
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There are moments that mark your life, moments when you realize nothing will ever be the same and time is divided into two parts, before this and after this.

I think if you invest wisely in yourself with counseling, al-anon and continuing to post here – you’re after this is going to be just fine!!!!
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Old 09-03-2014, 10:15 AM
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You all are so sweet and comforting. Why is it that hearing what I already know brings me comfort? I guess I needed that validation?
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Old 09-03-2014, 10:16 AM
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Needing validation is normal. Learning to get it from yourself is the tough part!
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Old 09-03-2014, 12:01 PM
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Sometimes we all need reminding of what we already know, that is what we, your SR friends, are here for!!!

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