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Join Date: Oct 2011
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Woodman,
My heart goes out to you along with my prayers. I went through almost the same thing a little over a year ago. What gave me strength to cope was our kids, my family and my friends. My kids gave me someone to care for and my friends and family cared for me so please lean on them. Also the thought that she wasn't suffering anymore and had found the peace in the afterlife that she could never find in life.
My heart goes out to you along with my prayers. I went through almost the same thing a little over a year ago. What gave me strength to cope was our kids, my family and my friends. My kids gave me someone to care for and my friends and family cared for me so please lean on them. Also the thought that she wasn't suffering anymore and had found the peace in the afterlife that she could never find in life.
((Woodman)) - I'm so very sorry for your loss. You, your children, your wife and all who loved her are in my prayers.
Though all the posts here have been full of support, it was MG's post that caught my eye. Like she, I have lost a loved one to addiction....something that I was previously addicted to but am in recovery.
She was the second mom I'd lost, and I had to look to others who promised me I would get through it.
She was far too young to die, but your post reminds me of why I stay in recovery. Not that that helps, any, but there are many here who have had a similar loss, many people who are reading and thinking about what the true bottom is, and everyone of us is supporting you and your kids.
We can't be there in person, but believe me, the power of SR support is quite amazing.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
Though all the posts here have been full of support, it was MG's post that caught my eye. Like she, I have lost a loved one to addiction....something that I was previously addicted to but am in recovery.
She was the second mom I'd lost, and I had to look to others who promised me I would get through it.
She was far too young to die, but your post reminds me of why I stay in recovery. Not that that helps, any, but there are many here who have had a similar loss, many people who are reading and thinking about what the true bottom is, and everyone of us is supporting you and your kids.
We can't be there in person, but believe me, the power of SR support is quite amazing.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
Woodman, My heart hurts for you; I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand the pain and can only say that in time, it will ease - it truly does take time, so be very kind to yourself. If you are like me, in the dark hours before morning you may start thinking could I have done things differently. Please, please know that you absolutely did the best you could and you could not do anything to save her. I'm so very sorry. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: Rochester, ny
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Dear Woodman,
My heart goes out to you.
As MorningGlory said, it's unbearable now, but you will be ok. It will take time, though. Grief is hard. Really really hard...but you can get through this....tiny steps, keep breathing, keep reading here.....
May you have the exact support you need when you need it. I believe you will. Keep breathing, keep crying, and then..breathe again. --it comes in waves.
My heart goes out to you.
As MorningGlory said, it's unbearable now, but you will be ok. It will take time, though. Grief is hard. Really really hard...but you can get through this....tiny steps, keep breathing, keep reading here.....
May you have the exact support you need when you need it. I believe you will. Keep breathing, keep crying, and then..breathe again. --it comes in waves.
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Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: acceptance
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Dear Woodman
I am so very sorry for your loss and your children losing their mother. I can only imagine how painful this must be for you.
May the Lord put his arms around all of you and comfort you during this time of grief. I will keep you in my prayers.
I am so very sorry for your loss and your children losing their mother. I can only imagine how painful this must be for you.
May the Lord put his arms around all of you and comfort you during this time of grief. I will keep you in my prayers.
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Midwest, USA
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Thank you ALL so much for the hugs, love, encouragement. This truly is an amazing forum, and to get the support from all of you who know this disease really lifts me up.
We had the funeral today-it was beautiful-a fitting tribute to a beautiful lady, inside and out. I choose to block out the bad times over the last 5years and remember her as I knew she was- kind, selfless, loving and devoted mother and wife.
Now a new chapter of my life begins, with my wife shining brightly through my kids. We'll be ok.
We had the funeral today-it was beautiful-a fitting tribute to a beautiful lady, inside and out. I choose to block out the bad times over the last 5years and remember her as I knew she was- kind, selfless, loving and devoted mother and wife.
Now a new chapter of my life begins, with my wife shining brightly through my kids. We'll be ok.
When my ex passed last year, I found our local hospice to be a great resource. They offered a special grief counseling program for children who have suffered a loss. It really helped my 12 yo son. It was offered free to anyone who needed it, regardless of whether the loved one had been a hospice patient.
Hugs to you and your kids. Glad to hear it was a lovely and fitting service and that your wife is finally at peace. Thank you for the update.
Hugs to you and your kids. Glad to hear it was a lovely and fitting service and that your wife is finally at peace. Thank you for the update.
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